see what we need to recognize the things that we truly want, the things that deeply meaningful the things that are genuinely fulfilling or require patience, they all require patience, they all require work, they all require energy. see the challenges we all want to be with someone who makes us happy when what we need to do is be someone who makes us happy. we sit with our friends discussing the rules but no one even knows what game we’re trying to play because the problem with our generation not wanting relationships is that at the end of the day we actually do.
#4 If you are too clingy in a relationship.
To make sure that you take time and reset today in a conversation together so often so many of our anxieties are actually built on assumptions or misconceptions which can easily be resolved through a simple conversation as early as you can.
#3 If you’re in a relationship.
The bigger mistake we make is avoidance something but say nothing, smile and drink the poison at least until that becomes annoying. we tend to avoid these conversations because we’re conscious of the risks of speaking up but unconscious of the risks of not speaking up, none of us should stay in relationships where we’re fighting all the time but we can learn to change how we fight, soften your judgment speak how you’d like to be spoken to affirm before you complain, let your partner know you care to approach the situation with compassion, start with empathy focus on facts, initiate the dialogue, stay open-minded and remember when you’re fighting the real fight is both of you against the problem not both of you against each other.
#2 Why most relationships fail.
The Biggest challenge we have is that we show love to another one that you’re a gifts person you give more gifts if you believe in quality time you give quality time what we need to focus on is what the other person wants and not what we want to think about the person that you love or want to show more love to figure out which language they belong to and try some of these out experiment with them to show them more love, appreciation, and encouragement. I guarantee you will increase and strengthen your bond almost immediately and remember this isn’t a technique or a trick this is a genuine conveyance of your love and what you feel about them so give it a go.
#1 What we have got wrong about love.
We experience love when we feel happy. we are in a world where people aren’t self-loved and self-fueled enough to even consider this. The first is getting over your greed and ego. The second is recognizing that you have value and when you serve others there’s a value exchange. And the third, when you are feeling full and over-flowing you can then overflow to others.
When you first wake up in the morning your body is at peak cortisol production. Cortisol is a vital hormone that regulates various processes in the body. But mostly, it’s the hormone your body produces in order to keep your body and mind alert and awake. Cortisol also plays an important role in regulating your natural sleep-wake cycle aka your circadian rhythm. Your circadian rhythm is the rhythm your body creates in order to keep you awake and alert in the mornings and throughout the day, and also to make you sleepy and ready for bed at night. If you drink coffee when your body is at peak cortisol levels, you’re supplementing your alertness with a drug, in this case, caffeine. This results in your body potentially decreasing your cortisol production and resulting in you being dependent on coffee for your alertness and awakeness Also, this may be a really unpopular opinion but I think it’s really stupid to have to drink coffee in the morning to feel awake and energized.
If you wake up and have low energy and fatigue throughout the day, it’s indicative of a bad sleep schedule and or a poor diet. Both of which require long-term, holistic fixes, and using coffee to bypass that is simply short-sighted and only fixes the symptom, not the underlying problem. The most important thing you can do for your health and well-being is to get a regulated sleep schedule where you’re sleeping a non-negotiable bare minimum of 7 hours per night AND you’re going to sleep and waking up at the same time most nights. This regulated cycle puts your body in a groove that makes it easy for it to get good sleep because it’s routine. If you wake up at 7 am one day and then at 12 pm the next day, then your body isn’t going to have a routine and will, therefore, have trouble establishing your sleep cycle and going into deep sleep.
#2 Don’t dick around and procrastinate in the morning.
The worst thing you can do as soon as you wake up is laying in bed for an extra 2 hours wasting time. As soon as you wake up, you should get out of bed and start on the most important tasks of your day, OR do 1 or 2-morning rituals or routines that can prep your mind and body for the day before you go crush your tasks for the day. What you do first thing in the morning sets the precedent for your whole day, so if you wake up and just lounge in bed for a long ass time after you wake up, then it pushes back your entire schedule and will put you in the wrong frame of mind.
I like to use the 5-minute rule when I’m feeling lazy in the mornings. If you’re not familiar, the 5-minute rule is a really common productivity hack that basically says, if you don’t feel like doing something, just commit to doing it for 5 minutes. If after 5 minutes you want to stop, then you can stop. If you want to continue, then you can continue for another 5 minutes. Doing this turns your tasks into small actionable steps that are WAY less overwhelming than committing to doing an entire 3-hour task.
#3 NEVER leave the house without washing your face.
If you didn’t already know, your skin naturally produces and builds up oil in your pores and skin as time goes on. This is why when you don’t shower or wash your face for a long time, your skin starts to get oily. This oil build up leads to your pores getting clogged and these clogged pores cause pimples, blackheads, and acne. Most people sleep for at least 6 hours, even though you should really be sleeping at least 7 or 8 but that’s for a whole other topic. The point being, when you sleep for a few hours and your face is up against a pillow creating heat, your skin becomes oily and your pores can start to become clogged. So if you leave the house without washing your face when you’re walking out with hours and hours of clogged pores and oily skin, and if you don’t shower till later in the day, then you’ll end up going like a full fucking 24 hours without washing your face. Can you imagine how much oil and dirt is gonna be built up in your face by then??? I mean hey, if you’re trying to grow a blackhead farm on your face then, by all means, don’t wash your face but if you’re trying to have clean and godly skin then you have to wash your face with a face wash.
A handsome and wholesome face requires and wholesome routine that has the essentials for cleaning up your skin, nothing more nothing less. Ain’t nobody got time for some oily ass clogged skin.
#4 NEVER NEVER NEVER, AND I MEAN NEVER Use your phone as soon as you wake up.
I can’t tell you how bad this is, yet every single person does this. They sleep with their phone next to their bed, they check it if they wake up in the middle of the night, and they check it as soon as they wake up. Remember how I was saying that your body requires a delicate and regulated routine in order for you to go into a deep sleep and actually feel rested? Well if you check your phone in the middle of the night, it distracts your mind, making it harder to fall back to sleep, and it engages it in another activity which makes it harder for your mind to reach a relaxed and restful state and pulling you further out of your deep sleep cycle. Not only that but, but it also fills your head with distractions and stress before you’ve had a chance to tackle and focus on your most important tasks. If you wake up to some YouTube drama or see that PewdiePie is about to pass T-Series then you’re gonna be stressed out and distracted first thing in the morning and it’ll make it harder for you to have a productive and stress-free day. And lastly, for all my productivity nerds who work from their computers like me.
#5 NEVER do email as your first task of the day.
There’s nothing more soul-sucking than doing emails. But not only is it sucking, but it’s also really bad for keeping your mind in a focused and productive state. Email is the world pushing its agenda on to you before you can push your agenda on to the world. It puts you in a reactive state instead of a proactive state and makes it more likely that you’ll end up spending your day going from task to task based on what people want from you and you won’t get done the big, important tasks you set out to do from the start. And that my friends, is it.
In summary: Never drink coffee first thing in the morning, Never leave the house without washing your face, first Don’t dick around, Never check your phone as soon as you wake up And don’t do emails as your first task of the day.
It might seem like the rich do nothing but splurge their money on life’s luxuries and a lot of them do but truly wealthy people know that a penny saved is a penny earned so why not follow their lead instead their tricks will put you on the road to a bigger bank account.
#1. Dealing With Bills.
Instantly it’s never fun parting with your hard-earned cash when those bills come piling in. So, we naturally try to put them off for as long as we can but instead of saving you money it actually has the opposite effect simply because unpaid bills don’t allow us to manage the rest of our money as effectively as we should. As a result, you often spend the last bit of your coin on your bills and end up with almost nothing. So kick this bad financial habit and make it a rule to pay all your fixed expenses on the very first day through automated systems this way you always have a clear view of your financial situation.
#2. Making Shopping Lists.
If you love shopping you know how hard it can be to stop yourself from buying something especially if it’s on sale and that’s when a shopping list can come in handy. The truth is it only seems like you’re saving money when you buy stuff on sale, in reality, you subconsciously pick up way more items than you need and end up overspending. If this sounds familiar to you then plan your shopping list in advance and schedule your big purchases during sales to get a good bargain.
#3. Have No Spending Days.
If lists don’t put an end to your impulsive shopping it’s time to try the ultimate technique, “No Spending Days”. Your task here is very simple to forbid yourself from spending money on any unnecessary things for one day. Try it a couple of times and then raise the bar by not buying anything special for a whole weekend. Once you pass this test you can take on the biggest challenge of all and stop splurging on things for a whole week. This little exercise will train your willpower and make it easier for you to control yourself and save your money.
#4. Paying With Cash.
Going cashless seems really convenient but this way of handling your finances isn’t that effective once you see just how easy it is to swipe that little piece of plastic that’s why millionaires and people with high income always prefer cash over cards especially when it comes to small purchases. First of all, when it comes to credit cards it keeps you as far away from debt as possible which is always a plus. Especially when you consider the fact that cash has no interest to mention you become much more aware of your spending when you have physical money in your hands and you see the Sun getting smaller and smaller. You’ll be shocked how quickly it goes.
#5. Saving Change.
When you start paying with cash you inevitably collect a lot of loose change and even though everybody hates it and wants to get rid of it as soon as possible you really shouldn’t take that coin for granted. Any loose change that you drop in your bag and forget about can buy you a great cup of coffee or a snack that you normally pay for it with the rest of your money. Start keeping your change and you’ll see how quickly your daily expenses will decrease.
#6. Repairing Things.
Whenever something breaks our natural instinct is to replace it with a new one but most of the time it can be quickly and easily repaired. A lot of millionaires agree with this too and strongly believe in committing to purchase until its last breath. They even stick by this rule for gadgets and devices while most of us are hankering to get the latest model before the one we have even stopped working. Truly wealthy people fix what’s fixable plus why make more trash when you don’t need to have a bonus you’ll decrease your ecological footprint.
#7. Spending Money On Personal Growth.
Who said that saving that has to be miserable you can tackle this problem from a completely different perspective like splurging on things that make you better instead of buying yet another pair of shoes. Kimberly Palmer a personal finance expert at nerd wallet recommends doing just that and not being afraid to buy yourself a good laptop reliable car or any other thing that can open new doors for you. These types of purchases will inspire you to improve in your work field and therefore help you earn more money in the long run.
#8. Investing In Services That Save Time.
While we’re on the topic of effectively splurging money according to Business Insider the rich don’t hesitate to spend money on services that save their time either the millionaire mindset that can lead you to wealth is simple time is money period. Getting your groceries home delivered using laundry services or renting a relatively expensive space to stay closer to work can save you tons of time which translates to money in your wallet. You can use that extra time to get better at your craft start new interesting projects and brainstorm for more innovative ideas your options are limitless.
#9. Putting Money Into Your Hobbies.
One of the most important things in life is to love what you do and this ultimate truth basically rules millionaires lives. They buy stuff that makes them happy and uses this happiness as fuel for inspiration in their work. So, don’t stop yourself from buying a guitar if you’re passionate about learning how to play it or spending money on a good camera if you want to get into photography. These hobbies will complete your life and give you more energy for work just make sure that your savings allow for it and go.
#10. Splurging On New Experiences.
Most millionaires have pretty colorful lives and it’s all thanks to their ability to invest money not only in cool ideas but also in new experiences. Every experience whether it’s good or bad teaches us an important lesson and broadens our horizons showing us our true abilities and talents. So, don’t be afraid to step out of your comfort zone try skydiving take a trip to an unfamiliar country or start your own project you’ve always wanted to bring to life. These experiences will make you stronger and reveal your greatest strengths and weaknesses that in turn will put you on the path to financial success.
Success means different things to different people for some success might be financial achievements becoming a millionaire. For example for some its might mean accolades for sportsmen it may mean trophies, championships or medals. For some being successful might simply mean achieving a state of wellness health or happiness whatever it means to you take note of these 10 habits of all successful people they apply to any area and any meaning of success.
#1. They Set Goals.
You’ve probably never met a successful person who doesn’t set goals. Because the chances of you finding what you want without a clear target to move forward are right around zero. If you don’t know where you’re going you will end up someplace you didn’t plan to be. Setting goals should be the number one priority for anyone seeking success. define exactly what it is you want your end goal to break down exactly what is required to get them. Mini goals to make sure you why your reason for doing what you must do is strong so when you hit those roadblocks when things go wrong as they always do you have this strength and purpose to keep going.
#2. They Take Responsibility For Their Life.
Another key attribute of all successful people is they take complete responsibility for the success and the failures in their life unlike the majority they never play the victim rule if something doesn’t work out they don’t blame others they learned the lesson learn one more way not to do something and move on quickly. Your energy is always best spent in the present and planning for the future. Your thought process should always be how can I make this work and what can I learn from this. Never living in the past or making excuses as to why you aren’t where you should be from the burden. Everyone suffers setbacks everyone has the opportunity to either blame others in circumstances or to focus on moving on and creating a better future regardless of what has happened you decide what you do now.
#3. They Have Great Self-Discipline.
Discipline is a strong trait of all successful people and it is one that can be developed with consistent use. Anyone that works from home or unsupervised knows the importance of self-discipline when you are alone will you choose to go through social media watch cat videos on YouTube or do something that will be beneficial for your future. It is much easier to have discipline if you have clear goals and a meaningful purpose something that is much more important than meaningless distractions.
#4. They Are Obsessed With Self-Development.
You can’t really claim to be successful if you have given up working on yourself this doesn’t mean you are never satisfied just that you know it is human nature to want to grow and learn new things. Be open to learn new things and develop your mind through mentors audiobooks and reading as more you learn as more you will earn financially and spiritually.
#5. They Read A Lot.
Reading is a common pastime of many highly successful people the majority these days can’t sit alone for two minutes without becoming wormed picking up their phone to go on social media probably to post about how bored they are. Successful people, however, are almost always happy to be alone to be alone in quiet to have the opportunity to read or listen to something that will benefit their mind and their future. If you’re not a reader try audiobooks you can play them in your car in the gym work while you shower and use the time that might normally be wasted to gain new skills new strengths.
#6. They Manage Their Time Well.
Time management is essential to success. unsuccessful people usually get stressed and overwhelmed when there are too many tasks on their to-do list. Successful people are rarely phased they prioritize the big payoff and most rewarding tasks first and leave the insignificant ones to last. Knowing it matters most to do the most valuable tasks first. Successful people plan in advance days weeks months ahead knowing clearly what needs to be done to complete their jobs and reach their goals.
#7. They take Risks.
If you don’t buy a ticket you can’t win the wrath if you don’t take big rests you can achieve big rewards. Successful people know that there will be times they will need to take risks in order to get where they need to go often most people won’t take those same risks for fear of failure. However, the greater failure to successful people would be that of regret risk going for the life you want or guarantee living with the one you don’t want.
#8. They Keep Going When They Suffer Failure And Setbacks.
We all suffer setbacks every single person who attempts to live their dream life will suffer through failure. Many of them might even lose everything most quick. the successful never quit they keep going knowing their greatest character is formed in adversity knowing their success Authority is being written in every move and it will be especially good now they have a comeback story.
#9. They Find A Way To Wait.
Successful people find a way period whatever life throws their way they deal with it dodge it smash through it whatever is required they find a way to win. It’s whatever it takes mentality it’s the confidence in knowing whatever happens I will give my ball and leave nothing on the table I will find a way to win.
#10. They Do What They Love.
If you’re not doing what you love you can’t really clean yourself a success spending the majority of your working hours also known as the majority of your life doing things you hate for money is not successful living it’s torture to the soul. If you need to suffer doing something you don’t like to get to a life you love to do that but do not lose sight of exactly what your ultimate purpose finds your life purpose. Think of all the things you love to do more than anything in the world then brainstorm how you can turn those passions into profit doing what you love every day. even if you were taking a big cut it will be worth it do you love every day but you will never work a day in your life.
For many of us, getting up in the morning is a hassle. We often start our days on autopilot and go through our daily routines, forgetting about our well-being. There are certain morning habits that can ruin your mood, zap your energy, and set the stage for an unproductive rest of the day. We checked out what scientists and other experts had to say about making the most (and the least) of the first 60 minutes after you wake up. Today, we’ve rounded up 12 common wake-up mistakes that you’ll want to avoid!
#1. Hitting The Snooze Button.
Sometimes, your alarm goes off and you’re just not ready to face the day yet. Most sleep specialists believe that you should resist the temptation to put off the inevitable by 5 or 10 minutes. The reason for this is quite simple. If you hit the snooze button, you might enter into a sleep cycle you likely won’t finish. As a result, you’ll wake up groggy, rather than refreshed. The second reason is more about motivation: When you hit snooze, you’re telling your hopes and dreams that they can wait. Successful people don’t do this. The best thing for an alert day is to avoid the temptation completely. Instead, opt for going to bed a little earlier the night before, to get sufficient rest – you’ll rise with ease and won’t need to hit snooze.
#2. Checking Your Phone.
Most of us sleep with our phones just within reach – either under our pillows or on the bedside table. But wellness and work-life balance experts recommend that if you like to start your day right, you should try your best not to look at your phone until after you’ve had some time to wake up and collect yourself. Whether it’s checking e-mails, text messages, or even your social media accounts, you should make it a habit not to grasp your cellphone right after you open your eyes – because doing so can send you into “panic mode,” before your day has even begun. So do yourself a favor and stop checking. Your inbox and social media accounts can surely wait a couple of hours.
#3. Remaining Curled Up.
During sleep, your spinal discs absorb fluid as part of a natural rehydration process. This causes the discs to expand, which is why you can actually be a few centimeters taller in the morning. However, this natural process also limits the movement of the vertebrae and causes the spine to stiffen. So instead of staying all curled up, GENTLY stretch while you’re still in bed. Stretching out not only gets the spine and muscles limbered up, but it is also a way to build confidence as you begin your day. According to research, people who wake up with their arms in a V-shape “are super happy, like annoyingly happy.” On the other hand, there is evidence that people who wake up in the fetal position “wake up much more stressed out.” In fact, there is evidence that stretching first thing, helps to increase flexibility, improve circulation and relieve tension. So remember to stretch!
#4. Forgetting To Hydrate.
Upon waking up, your body is in need of hydration. After all, assuming you had a good night of sleep, you’ve gone for seven to eight hours without water. Drinking water not only helps you wake up, but it can also get your metabolism moving in the right direction. If you don’t like plain water, you can add some lemon or lime, which also helps to flush out the liver. Drinking water first thing in the morning can also help with constipation, prevent UTIs, help with weight loss, boost your immune system, battle bad breath and strengthen the brain, among other things. Experts suggest drinking water at room temperature though because cold water can shock your system and prevent the many health benefits from taking effect. So start your day with a large glass of water. It’s one of the best things you can do for your body!
#5. Drinking Coffee.
First Thing If you think you can’t function until you’ve downed a cup of coffee, think again! Scientists have found that your body naturally produces higher amounts of the energy regulating stress hormone cortisol, between 8 a.m. and 9 a.m. By drinking coffee before or during that time, the caffeine will force your body to produce less cortisol in the early morning. So enjoy that warm lemon water instead, and wait until after 9:30 to pour that perfect cup of coffee.
#6. Leaving Your Bed Unmade.
It seems that people fall into one of two groups: the bed makers and the unkempt bed keepers. I mean, who’s going to notice if you don’t make your bed, right? Besides, you’re just going to get back in your bed in a few hours and mess it up again. Regardless of whether folks pull up the covers or leave them in a heap, they are convinced that THEIR WAY is the right way. Some people suggest that it might actually be cleaner to keep the bed messy because an unmade bed is less hospitable to dust mites. But most experts disagree, since dust mites are everywhere, so an unmade bed isn’t going to do much to fend them off. Instead, they suggest washing the sheets every other week and vacuuming the mattress regularly. In addition, forming good habits – including making your bed in the morning, is associated with increased productivity throughout the rest of the day. In fact, making your bed is a keystone habit that can spark chain reactions that help other good habits take hold. So, if you haven’t already make it a priority, making your bed in the morning is a really good habit to start.
#7. Getting Ready In The Dark.
This has nothing to do with making bad fashion choices… Our bodies’ internal clocks are so sensitive to light, that getting ready in the dark can send a signal to your body that it’s still nighttime. This will keep you feeling groggy and out of it, rather than alert, energized, and in a really good mood. Continually getting ready in the dark may even make you feel depressed. So if you’re up before the sun, make sure you turn those lights on!
#8. Skipping Exercise.
We all know how important exercise is for our health and well-being, but many experts say making exercise a part of your morning routine is particularly beneficial. There are added benefits to working out in the morning rather than later in the day. In addition, morning exercisers tend to stick with their exercise habits. By working out in the morning, you get your exercise in before other distractions can intrude – and that’s something we can all relate to because once the day gets going, it’s hard to get off the treadmill called life.
#9. Brushing After Breakfast.
Common sense would dictate that brushing your teeth after eating breakfast is the right thing to do because you generally clean off all the stuff and gunk from your meal. But this is actually counter-intuitive: brushing your teeth right after eating can actually do a lot more harm than good – especially if you’ve downed acidic stuff like fruit or coffee. Likewise, the bacteria in your mouth produce acid when you eat, and this weakens the enamel of your teeth. If you brush your teeth while they’re in this ‘weakened state’, you can actually brush away enamel from the surface of your teeth. So brush your teeth after you rise, but before you eat. Then afterward, you can floss your teeth and rinse with water to make your mouth feel cleaner, and wash away any food particles. And if you really can’t stand to skip brushing after breakfast, hold off for half an hour after you eat.
#10. Steaming Up Your Shower.
The pulse of hot water feels great on your body, but it might be lulling you back into la-la land. Heat tells your nervous system that it’s time for your muscles to relax, and for your heart rate to slow down. As a result, you start to feel calm – and sleepy! If you want to feel more awake, take a quick cold shower. It sucks a little bit, yes. But it will signal the release of the energizing hormone adrenaline. It will also boost your mood. Research shows that cold showers can flood the body with feel-good endorphins.
Communication is one of the most important life skills that a person can have. Whether you want to have better conversations in your personal and social life, or get your ideas across better at work, there are some key things you can do to help improve your communication skills.
#1. Show Respect & Appreciation
Appreciation and respect can go a long way… People will be more open to communicating with you if you convey respect for them and their ideas. Even simple actions like using a person’s name will make them feel appreciated. It’s also important to be respectful and considerate of other peoples’ time.
#2. Listen Actively
People want to know that they are being heard. Instead of just focusing on formulating a response, really listen to what the other person is saying. The person speaking to you should be the most important thing, at that moment. Also, when you’re talking to someone on the phone, do not respond to an email, or send a text at the same time. The person will know that they don’t have your undivided attention.
#3. Ask Questions And Paraphrase
Asking questions will not only help you understand what the other person is saying, but it also indicates that you’re actually interested in what they’re saying. This opens up the conversation, and signals that you want to see them, hear them and understand them. And if you want to show that you really understand, then paraphrasing is a great tool. All you need to do is repeat back to someone what they just said before you comment yourself.
#4. Make Eye Contact
It’s important that you connect with the person you are talking to, and eye contact is essential when having a meaningful conversation. Looking at the floor or out the window signifies you don’t care, are bored, or aren’t really listening to them. By looking at the other person in the eye, you are proving that you’re interested in what they’re saying. This also keeps you focused and less distracted.
#5. Pay Attention To Body Language
Your non-verbal and non-written cues often reveal more than you think. Remember that you’re constantly communicating, even when you’re not saying a word. So make sure that you have open body language when interacting with others. Face your conversational partner, pay close attention to your gestures, and don’t cross your arms.
#6. Get Rid of Conversation Fillers
‘Um’ and ‘ah’ do little to improve your speech or conversations. Cut them out to be more persuasive, and to feel and appear more confident. One way is to start keeping track of when you say words like “um” or “like.” You could also try simply relaxing and pausing before you speak. Trust me, those silences seem more awkward to you than they do to others.
#7. Be Brief, But Specific
For written and verbal communication, practice being brief, yet specific enough, that you provide enough information for the other person to understand what you are trying to say. And if you’re responding to an email, make sure that you read the entire email before crafting your response. With enough practice, you will learn not to ramble, or give away too much information. Having said that, you should take the time to edit your messages! If you send a sloppy, confusing email, the recipient will think you don’t care enough to think through your communication with them.
#8 Put Away Devices
Somehow, most people just don’t get this one… But it’s quite rude to have your head buried in your phone while someone’s talking to you. So, put down your devices and look at the person who is speaking to you. Don’t answer calls, check texts or notice vibrations. Let it all pass. Stay focused on what the other person is telling you. Your body language, words, and emotional tone will let them know that you’re really taking in what they’re sharing.
#9 Validate Others’ Thoughts and Feelings
When someone feels a certain way, they feel that way for a reason; and even if you wouldn’t react the same way, it’s important to acknowledge the emotions they’re experiencing. You don’t have to agree with the other person to validate them. You can make them feel important by simply letting them know that you hear what they’re saying, and accept their perspective.
#10 Never Talk Over People
By talking over someone, what you’re basically saying is “I don’t care what you’re saying – what I have to say is more important.” And this demonstrates a real lack of respect! On the same note, refrain from finishing people’s sentences for them. By doing this, you are dis-empowering the other person, because you’re taking control of the conversation. So bite your tongue!
#11 Watch Your Tone
While it’s sometimes necessary to be assertive in order to make your point, don’t be aggressive. There’s a fine line between the two. Try not to cross it. A combative tone is not in any way productive. Be confident and direct, while maintaining a calm, cooperative tone.
#12 Smile And Have A Positive Attitude
When you smile often and exude a positive attitude, people will respond positively to you. Even when you’re talking on the phone, smile, because your positive attitude will shine through, and the other person will know it. You see, the more you pay attention to how you express yourself to others, the better you’ll get at communicating effectively. So give it a try! Apply these tips in your day-to-day interactions, and you will improve your communication skills instantly.
There’s a status ranking system that all humans unconsciously run through their minds anytime they encounter somebody new. We try to figure out where we personally fit on the social ladder compared to other people around us in any given situation. But you don’t need to be on stage or be rich, or famous, to convey high status. You can convey many of the high-status signals through your behavior and body language. You see, money and fame are just situational status. If you want to be high status in virtually every situation, then it has to be sub-communicated in the following ways.
#1: Have A Calm Masculine Presence
First, you need to understand that a woman will get a sense of your status immediately just by the way that you carry yourself. If you seem nervous, flustered, fidgety, or you can’t hold the tension with an attractive woman, she will instantly sense your fear and insecurity and deem you lower status than her. If you seem scared of her, then essentially you’re putting her on a pedestal above you. So how do you solve this?
You must develop a calm, masculine presence. Where you’re secure and who you are. So that you can walk up to a woman, look her deep in her eyes, and remain calm under the tension of that situation. It doesn’t even faze you. This is literally the number one quality in attracting a woman and being high status. Now, women will often test you in this quality. She might poke you, and press some of your hot buttons to see if you can handle that situation and stay calm and keep your cool. Because if she can easily affect your emotions, then you can’t possibly be the strong Rock of a man that she wants.
#2: Physiology Affects Your Psychology
So one thing that will help eliminate those nervous feelings in your body is to walk, talk, and stand high-status. Most guys, when they walk into a new venue, they walk in nervous. And they start looking around everywhere as if they’re lost. And they start circling the place like a shark. Or they just stand in the corner somewhere, watching everyone else have fun. When you walk into that venue, especially like a bar or Club, walk in like you own the place. If there are two doors, I like to push him open like I’m the man and do the victory pose. It sounds pretty lame on camera, but it actually looks pretty cool when you do it. Have a slight grin on your face, like you’re right at home.
I even recommend as soon as you enter start saying hi to people or high-five them. And if you’re dressed really well, and having a good time enjoying yourself, then people will actually probably mistake you for the owner. When you stand, no slouch. This will instantly lower your status. I know it’s a bad habit for most people, but start becoming aware of it so you can break that habit right now.
To know exactly how you should always be standing, go find a wall and stand against it. Your ass, shoulder blades, and head should all be touching the wall. This is how you should always be standing. Move your body slow and with purpose. Ingrain this into your brain because it’s that important. Now, this doesn’t mean you have to be stoic and motionless. It’s OK to have fun and dance and jump up and down. Just eliminate nervous gestures like scratching yourself, rubbing your fingers, playing with your jewelry, and constantly shifting your eyes.
#3: Strong eye contact is a sign of power.
Now you can take this even further if you want by blinking less. That can really convey power and intensity. Now don’t overdo it with a creepy stare down. Just make sure you have strong, steady eye contact. And I recommend just focusing on one eye because if you shift from eye to eye, that will make you seem nervous. Next, make sure to lead your group. If you’re not currently the leader of your social circle, then start taking the lead. And remember, good leaders tend to make decisions quickly, and they change their mind slowly.
Whereas followers or non-leaders tend to make decisions slowly, and they change their mind very easily and quickly. So take charge. When you’re out with your friends, be the first to move. For example, if you’re at dinner with your group of friends, be the first to say: “Come on, let’s get out of here!” When you do this, you’re unconsciously framing in their mind that you are the leader. That when you say go, everybody goes. And remember this, a good leader is always a leader of self first.
Whereas followers or non-leaders tend to make decisions slowly, and they change their mind very easily and quickly. So take charge. When you’re out with your friends, be the first to move. For example, if you’re at dinner with your group of friends, be the first to say: “Come on, let’s get out of here!” When you do this, you’re unconsciously framing in their mind that you are the leader. That when you say go, everybody goes. And remember this, a good leader is always a leader of self first.
Another way to lead is to bring people into your world, and this works really well for example: let’s say you have a favorite bar or club or restaurant that you always go to, and everybody there knows you because you’re a cool social guy, you chat up the owner, the waitresses. You know the bouncers, etc. Well, when you bring people into that world, and they see you treated like a king, they will see you like a king.
#4: Become the leader of Leaders
When you’re out socializing, befriend other men that are leaders of their group. This will cause the women in that group to see you as a leader too, and thus be more attracted to you. If you go out and you see a large mixed group of guys and girls, determine who the leader is and befriend him. You can usually tell who the leader is because a lot of times all the other people are circled around him, and they all stop to listen when he speaks. And keep in mind that status is not about out alpha-ing other guys. If other guys don’t respect you, then you’ve actually lost your status.
#5: Give Value
High-status men tend to give value. They don’t take the value, they have so much greatness in their life that they want to share it with everyone. They don’t try to make people feel bad about themselves or put people down. They make people feel good, inspired, proud, and beautiful. Give and you shall receive. You may have heard of the concept of “negging” which is basically giving a negative compliment to a woman. Such as: “So is this your natural hair color? So you changed it to that?!” and it’s designed to knock her down a few pegs. Essentially, bring her down to the guy’s lower status. Which if you think about, it is a really bad mindset. Right, it’s the mindset that she’s above me, and I gotta say this thing – basically insult her.
One surprising way to bring someone up to your level is by challenging them. So instead of using manipulation to lower people, an easy way to lift people up is to give them a genuine compliment. Now instead of a generic compliment like, “Nice dress!” say, “You know this dress really suits you like it makes you look really elegant.” do you see how that’s a lot better? Now, this doesn’t mean that you should suck up to people. Does a king suck up to people? Definitely not. He might compliment someone, but he’s not trying to seek their approval.
#6: Command Attention
A man that can stop everyone and command them to listen to him, demonstrates status. And make sure your toast is outstanding. After all, you have center stage. Whether you’re making a toast, or just commanding the attention of a room, or people nearby, speak with conviction. If you hesitate or stumble when you speak, most people probably won’t see you as a worthy leader.
A high-status man is decisive, and he speaks as if he’s sure of himself. Your voice should be loud, slow, controlled, and projected so all can hear. A good rule of thumb when you’re speaking to someone or a group of people, a woman, or whatever, is to speak so even the people behind them can hear. Even if there’s no one behind them, imagine there are people behind them and speak loud enough so they can hear. Because if you’re only speaking loud enough for the people in your close vicinity to hear you, then you’re gonna be speaking very low, and it’s gonna sound insecure bottom line. So project your voice so all can hear, and don’t worry if other people around you can hear you. Who cares? This is your reality anyway.
Another way to command attention is by dressing really well. Studies have actually shown that people who wear a suit are perceived as authority figures, versus people wearing just normal clothes. Because if you look like a powerful leader, not only will you feel like one but people will actually see you as one. Last, and definitely one of the most important, is that high-status people tend to have very high standards for themselves, and also the people they allow in their life. Be picky about the people that you let in. Including the girls that you date. A king is not gonna just make anybody his queen. He’s gonna choose the absolute best. That’s why it’s so important to qualify women. And when you do this, they will see you as high status. You can even qualify men as well before you bring them into your inner circle. Because high-status men have high standards for everybody that they bring in their life. And they also challenge people to bring the best out of them.
So for example, if I give a seminar and somebody comes up to me afterward, and they say “Hey I really liked your talk!” Instead of just saying thank you, I might say “Hey thanks a lot, which part did you like the best?” or “Thanks man, what did you like about it?” Now I’m showing appreciation, but I’m also being a little challenging and making him think a little. So start doing this with everyone in your life and you’ll actually begin to notice that they’re treating you higher status. When you apply all of these things, not only will you have more attractive women in your life, but other aspects of your life. Such as your wealth, your career, other relationships, and even your health will all improve.
What’s up everybody, welcome to the men-secret-books. one thing successful people all have in common is that they’re always striving for better if you’re good well you’re not good enough and if you’re great, you’re not the best and if you’re the best well someone’s still trying to take your spot from you. Being comfortable with where you are is one of the biggest killers of success, no matter what your definition of success is. we have a short amount of time on this earth, so I want to squeeze as much value that I can’t out of life, so in this post let’s go over 7 things you can do this year to live a better life.
#1 Be a little bit kinder
I had to go to the post office because I needed to sign a couple of documents. the post office isn’t really a fun place to be because there are always such long lines and people are always irritated because why did you lose my baggage. it was finally my turn and the lady sitting behind the desk saw me and screams next you just knew that she was stressed out, so I tried to start a conversation with her. wow they really got you working overtime huh that one sentence completely changed her mood like literally you saw the stress melt off her face and then she began venting about some annoying customers who think they know everything and about how busy she is at work then she told me that I needed two forms of identification to sign these documents, But the problem was I only had one. if you’ve ever been in a situation like this before you know that if the person sitting behind the desk is in a bad mood, they can make your life miserable I told her I only have one form of identification on me and she whispers “I am gonna protect you but didn’t say that” say that and should let me sign the documents without the hassle of me having to come back and stand in line again, a little bit of kindness can go a long way in a lot of different ways.
#2 Take care of your body
Life is busy, you got to go to school, you got to go to work, you got to take care of the kids, you got to start a business, you got to start investing, But you cannot forget to take care of your body. the best health insurance is preventive care by eating clean and by working out often because we’re not getting any younger.
#3 Do something you’ve always wanted to do!
For years I wanted to do MMA which is mixed martial arts told myself I would do it and then I asked a few of my friends to do it with me and a couple of them said they were interested but nobody did anything. I wasted so much time waiting for other people to do MMA with me, so I said screw it I’m gonna do it myself, I picked up my phone and I called a few MMA gyms and then I went and then I became a regular member for a little while. the hardest part about starting something new is “starting”, so stop waiting for George to start and stop waiting for the perfect time because the perfect time will never happen, just go out and make it happen.
#4 Spend less time the technology
I have an internet business clearly minority, mindset is an internet-based-educational brand, so I love the power that technology has given us, But here’s a little bit of advice “the world doesn’t need to know what you’re doing” just show them what you did, so give yourself an occasional break if you need one remember what it’s like not to be bombarded by notifications every four seconds.
#5 Make less excuses
The only thing holding you back from achieving your dreams is you, so let’s make this the year of making things happen, But what if nope you either get it done or you don’t. wait… No, you don’t understand I had no more excuses show me the results.
#6 Be a Giver
I had a new fridge delivered to my house recently. my delivery guys set it up it probably took him 15 minutes and the salesperson that I bought the fridge from told me that tipping is not required but he was super friendly, so I gave him a $30 tip. he spent the next couple minutes thanking me for the tip and telling me how I would use the $30 and then he told me that it made his day, But honestly I think it made my day even more because I just felt good hearing this.
#7 Watch less TV
Going along with some of the things that I said in this post you only live once, so stop wasting your time in front of the stupid box. sorry… I’m a TV box. I know you really wanna know who won in America’s Got Talent, so work your way down to gradually watch less TV, if you watch three hours of TV a day, bring it down to two hours a day then eventually one hour a day, now you can use your extra time to do more and learn more because well now you have more time to do these things.
Right now 90% of people on this planet are not living to their full potential and it’s not because they lack resources or opportunity. the reason why most people are unleashing their full potential is simply that they lack confidence.
Confidence is quite literally like a superpower or in other words it’s a level of power that is greater in scope or magnitude than what is considered natural, confidence is like the magic ingredient that allows you to get things out of life that you never thought were possible such as time with that beautiful girl that you’ve always liked, to put it simply confidence is what you need to unleash your true potential to become something like a real-life superhero.
Some people think that you must be one of the lucky guys who was born with confidence, not realizing that confidence is actually something that has learned over time something that most people don’t realize is that like any other mindset confidence can also be lost if it is not used regularly but confidence is also like a muscle meaning that once you build it initially it is a hundred times easier to rebuild it if it is ever lost but most men sadly have never built it, to begin with where if they did they simply didn’t build enough of it what you’re about to learn will allow you to summon pure confidence at will so that you can conquer life unleash your potential and reach the pinnacle of what you are capable of but here’s the crazy thing that nobody ever told you about confidence, the weird thing about this real-life superpower is that confidence isn’t your actual ability to succeed but rather your belief in your ability to succeed, what you believe about yourself whether it’s true or not is the thing that shapes your life and the decisions that you make every single day.
What you’re about to learn is the most effective most powerful way to summon the confidence that you need to conquer anything in life whether it’s getting more results with attractive girls or generating millions of dollars so let us begin this trick is called the act as if meaning you must act as if you already have the level of confidence that you desire, if you were to ask one of the most confident men in the world what the secret was to his incredible confidence you probably wouldn’t believe him because he would tell you that to gain this superhuman power all that he really did was start acting as he believed in himself. we’ve all heard of the placebo effect which is a very real thing that is backed up by real science for example if I tell you that you can make a girl instantly attracted to you just by looking at her certainly even if this is not possible as long as you believe that it’s possible there is a very good chance that you will go out and actually attract girls just by doing exactly what I told you to do, this is a simple example of the placebo effect in action all humans on the planet are primarily driven by their beliefs, therefore, your belief is like a hidden superpower that you already have within you and you don’t need a million dollars or a hot girl to approve of you to unleash.
In psychology, there is also something called a self-fulfilling prophecy which states all the way back to ancient Greece and this prophecy states that your prediction about the outcome of a situation actually influences and alters your behaviour in ways that make that prediction come true, it was Confucius who said it best when he uttered the phrase
the man who says he can, and the man who says he cannot… are both usually right.
Scientists can’t explain why the placebo effect works but they have confirmed its existence all too often we look to the external world for confidence we look at things like how many likes we got on our latest Facebook post or what kind of car we drive not realizing that the start of peer unshakable confidence comes from within it literally starts with our own belief that we can do it before anything else, at its core building peer confidence is all about taking small calculated risks and even the simple trick of acting as if you already have confidence is in itself taking one of these risks when it comes to pretty much all things in life if there is no risk then there is no reward, now the second extremely important part of gaining the confidence that you’ve always wanted involves little things called reference points.
Think about this when you’re about to approach a girl what is it that really makes you confident in other words where does the peer confidence come from, the answer is actually really simple, the confidence to approach an attractive girl or to do pretty much anything that you’re scared of involves you thinking back to the reference points or memories of when you’ve done that thing successfully before, these reference points are like small wins or times where things went good for you and the more small wins that you accumulate over time the more confident you will be when doing whatever it is that you want to do and the key to accumulating these small wins all goes back to your belief about yourself which is why acting as if is such a powerful but simple way to instantly boost your confidence in any situation so the next time that you want to unleash superhuman confidence, simply act as if and believe in yourself then you can accumulate the small wins or reference points needed to build the confidence that will withstand the test of time.