see what we need to recognize the things that we truly want, the things that deeply meaningful the things that are genuinely fulfilling or require patience, they all require patience, they all require work, they all require energy. see the challenges we all want to be with someone who makes us happy when what we need to do is be someone who makes us happy. we sit with our friends discussing the rules but no one even knows what game we’re trying to play because the problem with our generation not wanting relationships is that at the end of the day we actually do.
#4 If you are too clingy in a relationship.
To make sure that you take time and reset today in a conversation together so often so many of our anxieties are actually built on assumptions or misconceptions which can easily be resolved through a simple conversation as early as you can.
#3 If you’re in a relationship.
The bigger mistake we make is avoidance something but say nothing, smile and drink the poison at least until that becomes annoying. we tend to avoid these conversations because we’re conscious of the risks of speaking up but unconscious of the risks of not speaking up, none of us should stay in relationships where we’re fighting all the time but we can learn to change how we fight, soften your judgment speak how you’d like to be spoken to affirm before you complain, let your partner know you care to approach the situation with compassion, start with empathy focus on facts, initiate the dialogue, stay open-minded and remember when you’re fighting the real fight is both of you against the problem not both of you against each other.
#2 Why most relationships fail.
The Biggest challenge we have is that we show love to another one that you’re a gifts person you give more gifts if you believe in quality time you give quality time what we need to focus on is what the other person wants and not what we want to think about the person that you love or want to show more love to figure out which language they belong to and try some of these out experiment with them to show them more love, appreciation, and encouragement. I guarantee you will increase and strengthen your bond almost immediately and remember this isn’t a technique or a trick this is a genuine conveyance of your love and what you feel about them so give it a go.
#1 What we have got wrong about love.
We experience love when we feel happy. we are in a world where people aren’t self-loved and self-fueled enough to even consider this. The first is getting over your greed and ego. The second is recognizing that you have value and when you serve others there’s a value exchange. And the third, when you are feeling full and over-flowing you can then overflow to others.
“I Love You” those three little words hold a ton of meaning and saying them first in a relationship can be intimidating if you want to tell if your man loves you without waiting for him to verbalize it we can help we’ll show you some things that all men do when they’re in love.
1. Slowing Down.
When you’re spending time with the object of your affection sometimes it feels like time is flying by. But in reality, if a man is in love with you, he’s actually going to slow way down, at least when it comes to walking. Considering that most men are taller and have longer legs than most women they tend to move along faster than we do. But rather than hoping we catch up with them men who are in love will actually slow down to match your pace. Scientists have studied the way men walk when they’re alone, with a friend or with a significant other. When men walk along with a woman they have blue tonic feelings toward, they don’t significantly change their pace and walk much the same way they do when they’re alone. However, when they walk with someone they have romantic feelings for, they significantly change the pace to keep time with their partner. From a biological standpoint, this makes total sense. the reproductive systems of women are sensitive to energy disturbances, and being overly exhausted can make it difficult to conceive. Therefore, it makes sense that men would have evolved to take on the energetic burden to compensate for their female partners so that she can conserve her energy.
According to various studies, both men and when and say that they believe women fall in love faster than men do. They also believe that women are usually first to say those three little words “I Love You.” These beliefs are pervasive in our books, television shows, and movies, but according to science, they’re also wrong. Studies have shown that men report falling in love faster than their female partners and expressing it sooner. Again, from a biological perspective, it makes total sense that women would be choosy er about their potential partners than men. After all, women have a lot to lose in terms of potential reproduction by committing years of their lives to the wrong men. We have a finite number of eggs, and a limited window of fertility, which men don’t have to worry about. And although they may not like to admit it, men desire close loving relationships with other humans just like women do. So, it makes sense that if a man loves you, he’ll tell you. Many women make excuses that the man they like is shy, cautious, or complicated, but in reality, if a man really loves you he will make it clear in no uncertain terms. And he will probably do so before you’re even ready to confess your love.
#3. Feeling No Pain.
Strangely enough, there are a lot of health benefits to being in love, especially for men. In fact, being in love can give you a pretty cool superpower: feeling less pain. Researchers at Stanford University studied the response of the brain to pain under various different conditions. Participants were placed in brain scanners while their hands were heated to various levels using metal rods. They were exposed to pain while looking at photos of their friends while doing a distracting task, and while looking at photos of their beloved. It turns out that if a man is in love, looking at a picture of his loved one can reduce the amount of moderate pain he feels by as much as 40%. And when it comes to severe pain, it reduces it by about 10 to 15%. interestingly enough, being distracted does help mitigate pain as well, just not as much. And the distraction and the photo of a loved one affect the pain signals traveling through the brain in totally different ways. We know the popular culture makes it seem that being head-over-heels and love isn’t “manly,” but considering it gives men a pretty cool superpower we think that stereotype needs to change.
#4. Grossness Override.
If you think about it, human beings are pretty darn gross. Even if you do your best to be clean, you’re walking around covered in germs, you occasionally get smelly, and your nose is filled with boogers. Yet, when we meet someone we love, we want to mash our germ covered tongues together, which objectively is pretty gross. You might be wondering why our brains are able to override all of our natural aversion to germs when we get close to someone, and that’s because of love. No, Really! if you’re wondering why your boyfriend is totally cool with being around you at your most disgusting, it’s because he’s really into you. Scientists have done studies in which they intentionally caused a group of people to become aroused, and then force them to do disgusting tasks. These include drinking a beverage with a bug in it, picking up a dirty tissue, and more things that most people would never want to do. The participants who were the most aroused were far less likely to report being disgusted than people who weren’t. Disgust is an emotion just like any other, and it turns out that feeling love and arousal towards someone authorities feelings of being gross. Out sure, for most people, there’s a limit, but if a guy is fine picking up your dirty tissues, he’s probably smitten.
Our feelings seem so natural to us, but behind the scenes, our bodies are undergoing a ton of chemical reactions. The great poet of our time, Ke$ha, once compared love to a drug, and that’s honestly pretty accurate. When a man falls in love, it’s similar to the feeling of being addicted to a drug. There’s a surge of euphoria when your brain creates chemicals such as dopamine, oxytocin, and adrenaline. These help you bond with your partner and often increase the more you spend time together. They also manifest in physical symptoms that you may be able to spot. Common signs of someone in love or flushed cheeks, dilated pupils, sweaty palms and erasing heartbeat. Your pupils dilate because of the stimulation in the sympathetic branch of your nervous system, which affects your eyes. And it turns out that you really can feel “lovesick.” It’s not abnormal to feel uneasy, or lose your appetite when you’re falling in love. It’s often the result of the stress hormone, cortisol contracting the blood vessels in your stomach. Thankfully, as you become more comfortable with your crush, this general ego away. It can flare up at emotional occasions though and explains why so many grooms just don’t feel hungry on their wedding days.
#6. Trouble Sleeping.
If you’re lying awake in bed replaying that great day over and over again in your head, odds are good that your date is as well. That’s because being in love can make it extremely difficult to fall asleep. Yes, it sounds strange, but a man who is unable to fall asleep at night might just be in love. We know that falling in love can make us feel exhilarated and euphoric, and those emotions aren’t really compatible with getting a sound night of sleep. When men fall in love, their energy levels skyrocket, and they can concentrate better. they also have that addiction response to love, which means that they just want to be with, look at and think about the object of their affection. If you looked at a scan of the human brain at this time, you would see heightened activity in dopamine heavy areas. These areas are your brains natural reward system and are the reason you feel pleasure in life. Basically, your brain is so focused on the high of feeling crazy and love, that it just can’t change course and concentrate on going to sleep. Men and love report getting much less sleep than those who are not, although the sleep that they do get is often of superior quality. This could explain why your man sometimes sends you texts at very odd hours of the night, or super early in the morning.
By now you know that your body undergoes a lot of changes when you fall in love. But did you know that even your voice can change? Think about a time when you were hanging out with a friend when suddenly they got a phone call from their significant other. You probably didn’t think much about it, but we bet their voice changed once they started talking to their partner. In fact, studies have been done about the effect of love on voice, and people can tell by listening to only two seconds of audio whether the person is speaking to a friend or a lover. When a man is in love with you, he will subconsciously change the tone of his voice in order to mimic yours. If you notice the man is speaking to you in a higher voice than he uses for talking to his friends, he’s like smitten. As for women, we tend to make our voices lower-pitched when we are talking to someone that we are interested in. Mimicking is a pretty big part of how we express our affection and interest, even if it’s totally subconscious most of the time. It indicates a desire for closeness and intimacy with the person you’re emulating.
#8. One-Track Mind.
There’s an old trope that men love dating crazy women. But two men in love, it’s often easy to ignore all of the bright red flags there are obvious – absolutely everyone else. Have you ever had someone who loves you described you as perfect? Even though you know full well you aren’t? when a man is in love with you, he will focus on the positive qualities you possess, instead of becoming bogged down with your negative traits. It turns out that being blinded by love is a real thing, because of the elevated levels of dopamine you experience when in love. In addition to that, your brain also gets a spike in central Norepinephrine, which helps you remember new stimuli better. We tend to get bogged down by negative opinions on ourselves, and to us, our flaws can seem overwhelming. But when someone loves you, their brains make sure that the flaws that seemed so huge to you are minimized. If you’ve ever wondered why a friend is dating someone with habits you find irritating, that’s because they’re in love. In addition, to thinking you’re flawless, a man in love will also believe that you’re unique compared to other women. The dopamine and his brain make it easy to focus his attention on you, and difficult to pay attention to anyone else.
#9. Time Management.
It seems like all couples go through a phase when they first meet when they just can’t get enough of each other. When men are in love, it’s like they feel addicted to you, and they want to spend most of their time being with you. In fact, people who are in love admit to spending as much as 85% of their day thinking or talking about the object of their affection. Sure, in order to avoid coming across as clingy, and maintaining order in our lives, most people know not to 100% indulge these feelings. But a man in love will want to spend as much time with his partner as possible, and that’s because of what is going on inside his brain. He’s being affected by something known as “Intrusive Thinking” and it’s actually a form of obsessive behave. With all that dopamine floating around central serotonin can DIP, causing him to feel like he’s absolutely obsessed with. He may even suffer from a mild form of separation anxiety when you’re away. that being said, while this all may be flattering, make sure that it isn’t going too far. Some people use the excuse of new love to push people for overly fast involvement, and take their jealousy and possessiveness away too far.
#10. Compassionate Love.
Being in love is all well and good, but there are actually different types of love that you can experience. Obviously, most of us want to have a healthy relationship with a partner who is empathetic to or needs. For that, you need a type of love that is known as “Compassionate Love.” it’s a huge sign of a healthy relationship, and it means that your partner has a vested interest in making you happy. How can you tell if your partner has a compassionate love for you? See if they go out of their way to make you happy, even if it isn’t the best option for them. This can even be little things, like giving a blast bite of ice cream so that you can enjoy it. Or maybe they offer you their coat when you’re cold, even if that means they freeze. When a man is experiencing this type of love, this sacrifice doesn’t seem like much of one to him, because he takes joy in pleasing his partner. Romantic love gets a lot of airtime, but compassionate love is really the hallmark of successful couples and happy, long-term relationships.
Most guys find out that even when they’re pretty good at talking to girls, There’s a whole lot more to it than that. And most of the time a major part of what’s missing… Is a fundamental lack of body language awareness. But it’s not just that some guys don’t have the kind of body language that appeals to women, It’s that the body language they do have… makes girls bored, uninterested, or nervous. But don’t worry! Because today we’re gonna tell you that how you too, can have the charismatic, confident, unignorable body language that girls are naturally attracted to.
10. Fluid Eye Contact.
Even when it seems like you’ve got everything going for you, poor or overly-managed eye contact can sabotage your efforts and ruin your chance at talking to a girl. In other words, if you want your eye contact to tell a girl that you’re cool and she can talk to you, You’ve got to be fluid AKA, your eye contact can’t look rehearsed. And luckily, we’ve got trick for that: If your goal is to put a girl at ease and get her to talk to you, look her dead in the pupils, smile, and look away. You may be thinking, Mantelligence, in the pupils? That’s a little strong. C’mon. But really, it achieves the perfect balance by doing 2 things: First, by targeting the pupil and smiling, as opposed to just the “eyes” guarantees you make deliberate and friendly eye contact. And second, because you look away, you don’t seem too intense. Give it a shot.
Do you work at a desk? Sit a lot? Look at your phone often? Then listen up. Because of your shoulders… …Are telling girls loud and clear that you not only have poor posture but that you might even be a little intimidated by people around you. The worst part is that most guys are not that closed off, they just don’t know what their day to day life is literally making them look like they’re hiding in a shell and that it’s turning off women. So here’s the 1 step process to coming out of your shell and getting women to come after you… If you’re going to be using body language to attract women you better start paying attention to them. Just pull your shoulders back and keep them there. That’s it! It’ll be uncomfortable at first, But simply holding this posture will strengthen the muscles of your back and permanently create that cornerstone confidence girl look for.
8. Stand Bold.
A lot can be deduced from simply observing the way someone stands. To attract women, you’ve got to have a stance that signals confidence and strength. So here’s how you should stand: Stand with your feet shoulder-width apart. This will help you to make yourself seem “big”. Lock your shoulders back like we just mentioned. Pretend almost like your shirt is still on its hanger in the closet. Keep your chin up and as much as possible, Leave your arms at your side. Put it all together and you’ve got a killer stance that’ll not only make you stand out But’ll get girls coming your way without you doing anything else.
7. Play Your Hand.
No matter what you’re doing, always seek to be viewed as open or approachable. And one easy way to do that: Is to have your palms exposed, even just a little bit. Just like some of the other body language tricks we’re sharing with you today, Showing a girl your palms are perfect for putting her at ease and getting her attention without saying anything. Now, that doesn’t mean you have to just stand with your palms out, cause…that would be a little weird, but if you can work in some open, palms-up hand gestures as you’re talking or interacting, You’ll have girls heading naturally gravitating towards you.
6. Show Your Bias.
Not only do ladies know that guys check them out But at the right time and the right place, they are looking for it and hoping guys do. If this sounds like a nice guy problem, It is. Nice guys will go places where girls expect guys to be a little more open, a little more forward, And instead of showing their intentions, they end up looking out of place by not making a move. But here’s what to do instead: First of all, remember that in certain social situations, girls want a guy to be flirtatious. After that, tet the girl you’re interested in seeing you checking her out, and smile when she does.
5. Fight the Fidget.
A guy that is constantly moving about and fidgeting will be seen as nervous and out of control. This isn’t the vibe you want to give off as a first impression. Because it’s so widespread, A guy who makes controlled, collected movements will automatically lure women his way. Here’s how you can start practicing: Think about James Bond. Seriously. Do you think you see that guy fidget? Slowing down your movements convey directness because they are more calculated and have a purpose. You’ll appear more certain and it’ll show everyone around that you are more comfortable in your environment and it helps to create a bit of intrigue and mystery. However, just remember not to slow down too much. You don’t want to be seen as the weird guy that moves in slow motion.
4. Fix Yourself.
Here’s another across-the-room trick you can do to get girls coming your way. Ladies notice everything you do no matter how small or insignificant you might think it is. She will notice if you’re fixing your clothes when you’re around her and doing this will easily signify that you are interested in her Simply because you are grooming yourself to ensure you stand out and appear attractive. Not only does it show her that you care about your appearance, but it also keeps her from guessing if you’re interested or not. And that’s the whole point! So don’t be afraid to let her see you fixing your hair or straightening your shirt for her if it comes across naturally, She can only be flattered that you’re trying to look your best for her.
3. Space Out.
Even though we’ve evolved, we’ve still guided by some pretty primitive social dynamics. And one of the most ancestral behaviors, Is taking up space. All we’re talking about is taking up a little slice, the small bit of territory, that you need to be comfortable. There are two halves to this that women notice. First, they’ll notice that you did not try to dominate and take more than you need. As fun as that might be, 9/10 women are not gonna like it. The flipside, though, is that they also want to see that you kept enough space to be comfortable. And that part of it is extremely important. So put your keys and phone on the table, lean back in your seat, and don’t shrink into a space that’s too small for you. It’s not rude and as simple as it seems, this sends a clear signal of cooperation and confidence that women can’t look away from.
2. The Welcome Walk.
So it’s a wonderful day, and you’re taking a cool stroll through the park. You notice a guy walking But.. his head is down and hands are in his pocket. What would be your initial impression of this guy? Of course! He’s stressed or overwhelmed and more importantly… he’s unapproachable. If you want to seem approachable, stick your chest out and bring your shoulders back. This posture shows a woman what they’re most attracted to- confidence! It’s that easy. If you observe just about any celebrity, rock-star or champion you’ll notice that they always walk this way, And there’s no reason why it won’t work for you too.
1. Mirror Her Moves.
Let’s say a woman makes her move towards you. You either hold your ground and make her nervous, or you can seize the moment and use the opportunity to send some non-verbal flirtation her way. Sound like something you’d want to do? Mirroring is a completely silent, body language-based method of getting a girl to keep looking at you. It works like this: Say you catch a girl from across the room and she fixes her hair, the chances are… That you’ll automatically, without thinking about it, fix something on yourself. Now, while most of mirroring will actually happen on its own You can use it to build a sense of familiarity with a girl, that will get her to come to talk to you.
If you want to be able to get girls to come up to you, without even talking to them, there’s one body language no-no that needs to be avoided: Crossing your arms. You already knew not to do this, but if you’re like most guys, You still end up doing it anyway. Crossed arms are such a problem because more than anything else, they send a clear signal of do not approach. When girls see them, it’s almost like they have no choice, but to just give up talking to you, even if they’re interested.
Imagine you’re just hanging out with your friends and you see a drop-dead gorgeous woman that makes your heart skip a beat and your stomach flip. You start to imagine when suddenly everything that you wanted to say to her seems to suddenly get sucked out of your brain and you’re left completely blank. Before you even have a chance to make your move, she disappears. Never to be seen again. If you’re nodding your head in agreement and reliving the frustration, don’t worry, you’re not alone. After all most of us are just not taught how to talk to women when we’re growing up. The good news is it doesn’t have to be this way. Learning how to talk to beautiful women and sparking attraction is a learning skill just like any other and this is four tips to talk to girls to spark attraction.
#1. Opposites Attract.
Would you like to know the key to making her sexually attracted to you? Show her your masculine side. For there to be sexual attraction you need to have polarity between masculine and feminine energy. You see the women that you probably find most appealing are deeply attracted to masculine men. Just like how you’re probably attracted to very feminine women. Just like magnets, when you put the same charged sides together they repel. But when you bring two opposite sides together, they attract. So make sure to show her a lot of your strong masculine side because she won’t want to sleep with you if you show too much of your soft feminine side. Unless she’s a very masculine woman of course.
That means to speak loudly with a powerful low voice stand up tall and be proud. No slouching or closed body language, speak your mind and don’t be afraid to say no to her. This basically means don’t be a pleaser or supplicate and always make sure to lead the interaction and bring her into your world. And of course, have strong eye contact is absolutely crucial. These means don’t blink too much or shift from eye to eye as you’re looking at her. Now I’m not saying that you should be aggressive to her, don’t do that. But if you act like a wimp you’re not gonna get the girl, period.
#2. Emotion Vs Logic.
One common mistake that a lot of guys make when learning how to talk to beautiful women is they communicate logically when they should be communicating emotionally. While logic certainly has its time in place, it’s certainly not the language of seduction. Women respond to emotions. For example, when you’re teasing them, or breaking rapport, you’re spiking emotions of fun and excitement, and when you’re building a connection, you’re spiking emotions of safety, security, and intimacy. On the contrary, speaking logically pretty much has no benefit when it comes to turning on women or making them want to be with you. So instead you need to speak through feeling and connect with her emotion, spark her emotions. It doesn’t mean you need to always be talking about feelings, it should almost be like an emotional roller coaster where the emotions go all over the place. If it’s just flat-lined, and then you’re gonna end up in the friend zone.
Self-amusement is exactly what it sounds like. It’s using the interaction as an opportunity to amuse yourself. This is where guys really screwed up because they do the opposite, they’re always trying to amuse her but that just comes off as needy, supplicating, and reaction seeking, and doesn’t work. Once you get the hang of it, you’ll never run out of things to say, you’ll feel good talking about things that actually matter to you, instead of doing what most guys do and try to amuse her, try to entertain her, but when you’re interested in or amused by what you’re saying you’ll be speaking with enthusiasm and passion and the girl will naturally be interested as well.
Here are a few ways to self amuse: Talk about things that you’re passionate about. When you’re talking about your interest or your hobbies speak with passion in your voice. Remember enthusiasm is contagious. Also debating topics that you find interesting. However, stay away from politics or religion, unless however her political view or religious view could be a deal-breaker, in that case, figure that out as soon as possible. You can also make jokes that you think are funny regardless of whether she thinks it’s funny or not. Now try not to offend her. You can also just tell her to do something that amuses you, for example, I like to have girls draw me pictures, and a lot of them actually do it.
Qualifying a girl is basically just testing to see if she fits certain criteria that are important to you and this demonstrates that you’re a man with standards and it puts her in the position of trying to prove herself to you. Perhaps most importantly it ensures that the women that you’re allowing into your life are the exact types of people you want to surround yourself with. Now before you qualify a woman, you need to take the time to actually figure out what’s important to you in a woman. For example: What personality traits do you value? How do you want her to treat herself and those around her? How do you want her to be sexual? The more specific you are with your qualifications, the clearer the image of your ideal girl will be in your head, which will make it easier for you to spot her when you see her. Once you know what you want you can simply ask the girl questions to see if she matches the qualities that you’re looking for.
Girls love a guy who’s honest but sometimes telling a girl exactly what’s on your mind can backfire guys shouldn’t have to hold their tongues when it comes to speaking to their girlfriends but they may want to think twice before they say something that may set her off. So, today we’re sharing 10 things you should never say to your girlfriend.
#1. Your Butt’s Getting Bigger.
Telling your girlfriend her butts getting bigger is like telling her she just gained a ton of weight and no girl wants to hear that critiquing your girlfriend’s body will definitely land you in the doghouse so it’s best to avoid all conversations pertaining to her size and weight. Girls are very sensitive about their bodies and dealing with the pressures from society’s bad enough so they don’t want to be criticized by their boyfriends too.
#2. Your Best Friend’s Hot.
If you want to see your girlfriend fly off the handle all you have to do is tell her you to think her friend is super hot. A girl never wants to hear that her boyfriend finds another woman attractive especially if the girl is her best friend. She would much rather he had the hots for a perfect stranger than a girl she considers her BFF.
#3. When’s The Last Time You Shaved.
Most girls try their hardest to keep up with their beauty rituals, but there may come a time when they slack on a few things, like shaving their legs. A girl might not allow her leg hairs to get too out of control, but a little stubble here and there may sprout up from time to time she knows her boyfriend can see and feel the prickly hairs, but she hopes he’ll ignore it instead of calling her out on it.
A girl hates to hear the word no especially if she’s only making a simple request. When a guy says no to things like watching a romantic comedy or going to his girlfriend’s favorite restaurant, it makes her think he just doesn’t care enough about her to compromise and make her happy.
#5. Is that what you’re wearing?
When it comes time to find the perfect outfit the struggle is real. It may take a girl up to 30 minutes to finally throw something together, and the last thing she wants to hear from her boyfriend is: “Is that what you’re wearing?”. When a guy makes this comment his girlfriend thinks he’s not happy with her appearance. Chances are, she’s going to wear what she wants to wear anyways, the quiet still stings to hear those words from the guy she loves.
#6. Cramps Are No Big Deal.
Guys don’t know what it feels like to have monthly cramps wreak havoc on their bodies once a month. So, when a guy tells his girlfriend at cramps are no big deal, “there will be hell to pay”. Girl’s monthly menstrual cramps can really put a damper on her entire life. She doesn’t expect her boyfriend to understand what cramps feel like but she definitely wishes he can be a bit more understanding.
#7. Would You Get Mad if I Cheated?
Even if this is asked as a hypothetical question, his girlfriend doesn’t even want to entertain the thought of him cheating on her. When a guy asks his girlfriend, “would you get mad if I cheated?” his girlfriend’s mind instantly starts to wander. She contemplates whether he has cheated in the past, Orpheus plans on cheating in the future, and it totally freaks her out.
During an argument, if a girl tells her boyfriend how she feels, and he responds with, “whatever”. It’s probably the worst thing he could ever say to her. By giving his one-word response, a guy’s basically telling his girlfriend he doesn’t care what she says or how she feels, and he just wants the argument to be over. what a girl takes this response as him being passive-aggressive and nothing will get resolved if he’s not willing to talk things out.
#9. Ew, That’s Gross!
Things get a bit messy during that time of the month, and no matter how hard a girl tries, She’s bound to leave a few remnants from her menstrual cycle behind. If a guy comes across a maxi pad his girlfriend’s person shouts out, “EW, that’s gross!” it will really rub her the wrong way. Periods are just a part of life so making his girlfriend feel bad about something she can’t control will really kick her off.
#10. You Look Better With Makeup On.
Not all girls wear makeup every day, and sometimes they prefer to go makeup-free to get their skin a break from the harsh product. When a guy tells his girlfriend she looks better with makeup on, it’s definitely a low blow. Girls take this as the ultimate insult because it means their boyfriend doesn’t like their natural appearance. There’s no way a girl’s going to wear makeup every day just to make her boyfriend happy, so he’ll either have to accept her the way she is or he can get lost!.
Alright, a lot of you guys in high school and college are always thinking how to approach that cute girl at school so today I’m gonna break it down for you real quick because this shit is REALLY simple. But before we get into that, I want you to imagine the girl in your class that you want to approach Ready? Ok, here we go.
#1 Try to sit next to her in class
This one is simple but it’s also the EASIEST way to strike up a conversation with her. Once you position yourself next to her, it increases the chances that she’ll notice you and you’ll be on her radar. And if you’re well dressed and stylish like you should be, sitting next to her will easily grab her attention and separate you from everyone else. You don’t even need to say anything the first time you sit next to her or even the first few times you sit next to her. Just sitting next to her enough times will make her notice you AND it’ll make her subconsciously more comfortable with you since you’ll become familiar to her.
Now don’t use this as a way to procrastinate talking to her for the whole year and then once school is over you’re going on youtube and complaining that it’s impossible to get girls. You can and should talk to her literally the first time you sit next to her by using this next tip.
#2 Make a comment about what’s going on in class.
If the teacher says something weird or anything even remotely interesting happens, just turn to her and make a comment about it. She won’t see it as weird or unnatural since you’re sitting next to her and it makes sense that you’d make a comment to her because you guys are right next to each other. This is why I recommend sitting next to her because it makes this step WAY easier. If you’re sitting next to someone or standing next to someone and something happens, it’s natural to turn and say something about it, but if you’re on the other side of the room, you can’t just yell across the room and be like “HEY JULIE DID YOU SEE WHAT JUST HAPPENED? THAT WAS SO WEIRD RIGHT?” NO, of course, you can’t do that. So do your best to sit next to her. The benefit of sitting next to her is also that you don’t have to rush into getting her number. You can build up the interactions and make her comfortable with you by talking to her a few times in class before getting her number. Knowing that you’ll see her again in the future is an easy way to take the initial pressure off of trying to get the number and can allow you to focus on just talking to her normally and building the interaction.
This way you can calm your nerves and just focus on doing one thing at a time. It’s easier to get the courage to just make a comment in class one day, then to go up to her, start a conversation, talk a little, get her interested, and get her number. I know just thinking about that makes your palm sweat and gets you all nervous and anxious. And if you’re gonna be sweating when you approach her you wanna make sure you cut that out before you talk to her, otherwise, you’re gonna smell like shit and there’s no way she’d like you.
#3 Just ask for her number.
If you’re in the same class and you’ve talked to her a few times, just mention an assignment and ask her for her number so you guys can help each other out with it. This is probably the easiest and most organic way to ask for it because if you guys are gonna be helping each other out with notes and studying, then she has an incentive to give you her number so don’t be afraid to just ask for it. It’s really not that weird to get a girl’s number to discuss shit going on in class and she won’t think it’s a big deal either.
#4 If you can’t sit next to her for whatever reason OR she’s not in your class.
If you can’t sit next to her for whatever reason OR she’s not in your class then you’re gonna have to man up and cold approach. If she’s in your class but you can’t sit next to her then just follow step 3 and mention an assignment to her, then go for the number. Otherwise, you just gotta man up and do it. When I was in school I used to be hesitant about cold approaching but an easy way to approach her is to literally just go up to her and introduce yourself. I actually found a lot of success in doing this because although it’s not common for guys to do this, it actually helps separate you from all the other guys who are too scared to do it. Cold approaches also help make your intentions clear from the start and will avoid you getting friend-zoned because if you just randomly approach a girl at school and start talking to her and eventually get her number at the end of the convo then, of course, she’s gonna know you’re doing it because you’re interested in her romantically. An easy thing you can do to start the conversation just makes a comment about your surroundings as I said before.
BUT if you can’t think of anything or there’s nothing to make a comment about, just go up to her and say “Excuse me, what’s your name?” and then the conversation will flow naturally from there. You can ask her about her classes, what hobbies she has, or just straight up say “I honestly just thought you were cute and wanted to get your number.” This method is straight up and will either give you a yes or a no so you won’t have to waste any time. This is also good if you have a really popping Instagram because if you exchange Instagrams and she sees you’re a really interesting guy then that’ll do a lot of the work for you. As long as you’re confident, approaching it in a cool way, and smiling then she’ll either be down and continue the conversation or she’ll make it clear that she’s not interested and boom you got your answer without needing to waste brain space daydreaming about having s** with a girl you never talked to.
#5 Get a mutual friend to introduce you guys.
This is a really easy way to organically meet a girl, but it requires you to be friends with guys who are good at getting girls and meeting a lot of them. So you basically have two options, either be really good friends with that guy or become that guy. It’s up to you to decide. If you’re Based as fuck like me, then you can be that guy AND make friends with other guys like that so that way you’ll always have a good pool of girls to talk to. And that’s it.
In summary: Sit next to her in class Make a comment about something in class Just ask for her number Man up and cold approach Get a mutual friend to introduce you.