Today, I’m going to be teaching you an overview of the ULTIMATE high-level points for you to keep in mind so that you can get ANY girl you want.
#1 Become the best man you can possibly be.
If you are not satisfied and content with who you are as a man, then how the fuck you expect another girl to be satisfied and content with you as a person? And even more, how the fuck you gonna expect her to want to give you the time of day?
If you don’t think you’re good enough, and you’re not secure in who you are and the value you can provide to the world then there’s no way you’re going to be able to convince her that you’re worthy of her time and attention.
This is perhaps the most crucial aspect of becoming good at pickup. If your life and sense of worth don’t give you a stable sense of confidence and belief in yourself, then all the pickup techniques and tricks in the world won’t be able to help you get girls. This is THAT important. Becoming the best you will make you the type of guy that girls are attracted to and will make them want YOU instead of you being the one to chase them.
If you lack the confidence to commit on your open and just do it half-ass, she has to trust your judgement that you aren’t her best option, she will treat you like a half-asser!
Warren Buffet’s business partner Charlie Munger says: “the best way to get what you want in life is to deserve it! The world isn’t crazy enough to go about highly rewarding a bunch of undeserved people!” This wisdom applies in the dating world as well! If you want to consistently date the best women and have them chasing after you, your best bet is to become her best option. Be the type of man that your ideal woman would like to date! Said differently: be the kind of person that you would want to date if you were in your ideal partner’s position! When guys spend time scheming on how to trick a woman, instead of spending it trying to be a better man, that is wasted time. The good news is, that the vast majority of my clients are very high-quality men already, and just need help to communicate their legitimate value to a quality woman! I’m sure your audience is full of these men as well. Even if they are too young to be top dog YET, they are on that path to be a fantastic catch for a fantastic girl!
#2 Eradicate Neediness.
If you were ever wondering what girls hate most in the world, it’s mothafuckin neediness. It’s probably the biggest reason you get rejected by girls. You text them too much, you hit them up every single day, you constantly need validation that they like you and are still interested and a lot of other pussy shit like that. A guy’s neediness can be broken down into 2 main things: 1) they’re not confident, and 2) they don’t have enough going on in their own life to be satisfied with themselves. If you have a lot of dope shit going on in your OWN life, then you’re not even going to have time to be a mouth-breathing weirdo who’s stalking the girl you like on Instagram and Twitter all day. You’ll be too busy living your own life.
NEEDINESS is GROSS If she wanted a needy child in her life, she could adopt a starving orphan, she doesn’t need a man to fill that role… Anytime you’re trying to convince her or persuade her that you’re her best option, she already knows you’re not! It should be so clear to her after 2 minutes of her speaking to you that you are not like the others, and you are a man she would definitely benefit from paying attention to, that she is eager to follow your lead and go meet your friends or accept a mini-date from you right there! This is the very foundation of being the Buyer in the Buyer/Seller dynamic, AND to get the type of women you want!! She should see the value of an alliance with you so clearly, that she’s solving logistics and trying to close YOU!
#3 The Buyer’s Mentality.
Buyer’s mentality is a crucial element of the game, especially if you want to be a high-status guy. Buyer’s mentality is when you position the conversation and frame with the girl as if you’re the buyer and she has to sell herself to you in order for you to be interested in her. It flips the script on her and makes her vie for your attention and validation instead of you doing it to her.
The key to “pulling off the buyer’s mentality”, is that you actually have to believe you are valuable to her. You should be the Superhero of your ladies’ life! She should be prepared to take your cape to the dry cleaner’s on a moments notice, because she knows you’re a champ and she’s excited to stand in your corner and support you! To get that calibre of woman, you must know who you are and know what you want, and be outgoing and chat up a lot of girls, but be willing to walk away after a couple of minutes, if you see she isn’t a great fit for who you are and what you’re doing! Building this kind of lifestyle requires you to be a prospector, not an alchemist…
We have no doubts there are real heroes among men who make girls’ hearts beat faster. Yes, there are so few of us. And, you don’t need to fight giants or windmills to become one. The secret lies in a few, simple everyday gestures that can change you from “just another guy” into “Prince Charming.”
#1. Opening Doors.
What does opening a door for a woman say to her? Well, it says that the man who’s not too lazy to get out of the car to open the car door for his lady is at the least, attentive and well-mannered. It says that it’s important for him to know that his girlfriend feels safe and comfortable. This is an easy gesture that can seem insignificant at first but may lay the foundation of her favorable impression.
#2. Saving The Last Bite Of Food.
when a man saves the last bite of his meal for her! It means that he cares for her enough to part with those last fries he loves so much or with this juicy steak you made for him. That’s a sign of true love right there! Trust me, it’s a pretty big deal.
#3. Wanting To Spend Time With Her Family.
No, wait, it’s a good idea. One of the most dreaded moments in a relationship is the “let’s meet my parents” moment. So, if a guy shows genuine interest in all the baby pictures, funny stories about your siblings and everything like that, it’s a pretty sure sign that he won’t be traumatized by the moment mentioned above. He can also pick up a few conversation topics from listening carefully, by the way. If the “meet my parents” moment has already happened, and the man is more interested in spending some weekend time with his girlfriend’s family, rather than watching football with his friends and colleagues, well, many ladies will consider such a man “the one”. Even small gestures towards her family show the woman how much he values the significant people in her life.
#4. Introducing Her To Your Friends.
A true gentleman knows for sure if he fails to introduce his lady when he meets a friend and decides to have a chat with him. The poor girl will feel unwanted an attentive man won’t let such a situation happen as he cares about his lady and needs to know she feels comfortable.
#5. Giving Presents For No Reason.
Everyone loves getting a gift and having a holiday and by giving someone a present even a small one. It immediately makes an ordinary day a special one. Imagine how nice you would feel if your significant other gave you a gift for absolutely no reason. You should do it yourself too and if you are one of those people who like giving presents more than receiving them that’s even better for you. So be a gentleman. Pick up a small banquet for your lady on your way back home. It will make her day.
#6. Always Protected.
This wants is a really subtle one so don’t expect women to throw themselves at you because of it Technically, nothing on this list will make them do that. this is not what the list about. But your significant other will undoubtedly feel safer with you if you just keep a watchful eye towards the man in danger of this word. Stop her from standing into a puddle protector against splashing cars by walking outside of the sidewalk.
#7. Kissing Her Forehead.
Apparently, studies show that girls love when their significant others kiss them on their forehead. It’s also a pretty hot topic in women’s forums. Reports say that forehead kisses make ladies feel cared for, loved, respect and protected. It also means your probably higher and also that’s a plus tip. Also, there is odd research that said women used to have a pair of a lip on their forehead until they lose it due to evolution.
“I Love You” those three little words hold a ton of meaning and saying them first in a relationship can be intimidating if you want to tell if your man loves you without waiting for him to verbalize it we can help we’ll show you some things that all men do when they’re in love.
1. Slowing Down.
When you’re spending time with the object of your affection sometimes it feels like time is flying by. But in reality, if a man is in love with you, he’s actually going to slow way down, at least when it comes to walking. Considering that most men are taller and have longer legs than most women they tend to move along faster than we do. But rather than hoping we catch up with them men who are in love will actually slow down to match your pace. Scientists have studied the way men walk when they’re alone, with a friend or with a significant other. When men walk along with a woman they have blue tonic feelings toward, they don’t significantly change their pace and walk much the same way they do when they’re alone. However, when they walk with someone they have romantic feelings for, they significantly change the pace to keep time with their partner. From a biological standpoint, this makes total sense. the reproductive systems of women are sensitive to energy disturbances, and being overly exhausted can make it difficult to conceive. Therefore, it makes sense that men would have evolved to take on the energetic burden to compensate for their female partners so that she can conserve her energy.
According to various studies, both men and when and say that they believe women fall in love faster than men do. They also believe that women are usually first to say those three little words “I Love You.” These beliefs are pervasive in our books, television shows, and movies, but according to science, they’re also wrong. Studies have shown that men report falling in love faster than their female partners and expressing it sooner. Again, from a biological perspective, it makes total sense that women would be choosy er about their potential partners than men. After all, women have a lot to lose in terms of potential reproduction by committing years of their lives to the wrong men. We have a finite number of eggs, and a limited window of fertility, which men don’t have to worry about. And although they may not like to admit it, men desire close loving relationships with other humans just like women do. So, it makes sense that if a man loves you, he’ll tell you. Many women make excuses that the man they like is shy, cautious, or complicated, but in reality, if a man really loves you he will make it clear in no uncertain terms. And he will probably do so before you’re even ready to confess your love.
#3. Feeling No Pain.
Strangely enough, there are a lot of health benefits to being in love, especially for men. In fact, being in love can give you a pretty cool superpower: feeling less pain. Researchers at Stanford University studied the response of the brain to pain under various different conditions. Participants were placed in brain scanners while their hands were heated to various levels using metal rods. They were exposed to pain while looking at photos of their friends while doing a distracting task, and while looking at photos of their beloved. It turns out that if a man is in love, looking at a picture of his loved one can reduce the amount of moderate pain he feels by as much as 40%. And when it comes to severe pain, it reduces it by about 10 to 15%. interestingly enough, being distracted does help mitigate pain as well, just not as much. And the distraction and the photo of a loved one affect the pain signals traveling through the brain in totally different ways. We know the popular culture makes it seem that being head-over-heels and love isn’t “manly,” but considering it gives men a pretty cool superpower we think that stereotype needs to change.
#4. Grossness Override.
If you think about it, human beings are pretty darn gross. Even if you do your best to be clean, you’re walking around covered in germs, you occasionally get smelly, and your nose is filled with boogers. Yet, when we meet someone we love, we want to mash our germ covered tongues together, which objectively is pretty gross. You might be wondering why our brains are able to override all of our natural aversion to germs when we get close to someone, and that’s because of love. No, Really! if you’re wondering why your boyfriend is totally cool with being around you at your most disgusting, it’s because he’s really into you. Scientists have done studies in which they intentionally caused a group of people to become aroused, and then force them to do disgusting tasks. These include drinking a beverage with a bug in it, picking up a dirty tissue, and more things that most people would never want to do. The participants who were the most aroused were far less likely to report being disgusted than people who weren’t. Disgust is an emotion just like any other, and it turns out that feeling love and arousal towards someone authorities feelings of being gross. Out sure, for most people, there’s a limit, but if a guy is fine picking up your dirty tissues, he’s probably smitten.
Our feelings seem so natural to us, but behind the scenes, our bodies are undergoing a ton of chemical reactions. The great poet of our time, Ke$ha, once compared love to a drug, and that’s honestly pretty accurate. When a man falls in love, it’s similar to the feeling of being addicted to a drug. There’s a surge of euphoria when your brain creates chemicals such as dopamine, oxytocin, and adrenaline. These help you bond with your partner and often increase the more you spend time together. They also manifest in physical symptoms that you may be able to spot. Common signs of someone in love or flushed cheeks, dilated pupils, sweaty palms and erasing heartbeat. Your pupils dilate because of the stimulation in the sympathetic branch of your nervous system, which affects your eyes. And it turns out that you really can feel “lovesick.” It’s not abnormal to feel uneasy, or lose your appetite when you’re falling in love. It’s often the result of the stress hormone, cortisol contracting the blood vessels in your stomach. Thankfully, as you become more comfortable with your crush, this general ego away. It can flare up at emotional occasions though and explains why so many grooms just don’t feel hungry on their wedding days.
#6. Trouble Sleeping.
If you’re lying awake in bed replaying that great day over and over again in your head, odds are good that your date is as well. That’s because being in love can make it extremely difficult to fall asleep. Yes, it sounds strange, but a man who is unable to fall asleep at night might just be in love. We know that falling in love can make us feel exhilarated and euphoric, and those emotions aren’t really compatible with getting a sound night of sleep. When men fall in love, their energy levels skyrocket, and they can concentrate better. they also have that addiction response to love, which means that they just want to be with, look at and think about the object of their affection. If you looked at a scan of the human brain at this time, you would see heightened activity in dopamine heavy areas. These areas are your brains natural reward system and are the reason you feel pleasure in life. Basically, your brain is so focused on the high of feeling crazy and love, that it just can’t change course and concentrate on going to sleep. Men and love report getting much less sleep than those who are not, although the sleep that they do get is often of superior quality. This could explain why your man sometimes sends you texts at very odd hours of the night, or super early in the morning.
By now you know that your body undergoes a lot of changes when you fall in love. But did you know that even your voice can change? Think about a time when you were hanging out with a friend when suddenly they got a phone call from their significant other. You probably didn’t think much about it, but we bet their voice changed once they started talking to their partner. In fact, studies have been done about the effect of love on voice, and people can tell by listening to only two seconds of audio whether the person is speaking to a friend or a lover. When a man is in love with you, he will subconsciously change the tone of his voice in order to mimic yours. If you notice the man is speaking to you in a higher voice than he uses for talking to his friends, he’s like smitten. As for women, we tend to make our voices lower-pitched when we are talking to someone that we are interested in. Mimicking is a pretty big part of how we express our affection and interest, even if it’s totally subconscious most of the time. It indicates a desire for closeness and intimacy with the person you’re emulating.
#8. One-Track Mind.
There’s an old trope that men love dating crazy women. But two men in love, it’s often easy to ignore all of the bright red flags there are obvious – absolutely everyone else. Have you ever had someone who loves you described you as perfect? Even though you know full well you aren’t? when a man is in love with you, he will focus on the positive qualities you possess, instead of becoming bogged down with your negative traits. It turns out that being blinded by love is a real thing, because of the elevated levels of dopamine you experience when in love. In addition to that, your brain also gets a spike in central Norepinephrine, which helps you remember new stimuli better. We tend to get bogged down by negative opinions on ourselves, and to us, our flaws can seem overwhelming. But when someone loves you, their brains make sure that the flaws that seemed so huge to you are minimized. If you’ve ever wondered why a friend is dating someone with habits you find irritating, that’s because they’re in love. In addition, to thinking you’re flawless, a man in love will also believe that you’re unique compared to other women. The dopamine and his brain make it easy to focus his attention on you, and difficult to pay attention to anyone else.
#9. Time Management.
It seems like all couples go through a phase when they first meet when they just can’t get enough of each other. When men are in love, it’s like they feel addicted to you, and they want to spend most of their time being with you. In fact, people who are in love admit to spending as much as 85% of their day thinking or talking about the object of their affection. Sure, in order to avoid coming across as clingy, and maintaining order in our lives, most people know not to 100% indulge these feelings. But a man in love will want to spend as much time with his partner as possible, and that’s because of what is going on inside his brain. He’s being affected by something known as “Intrusive Thinking” and it’s actually a form of obsessive behave. With all that dopamine floating around central serotonin can DIP, causing him to feel like he’s absolutely obsessed with. He may even suffer from a mild form of separation anxiety when you’re away. that being said, while this all may be flattering, make sure that it isn’t going too far. Some people use the excuse of new love to push people for overly fast involvement, and take their jealousy and possessiveness away too far.
#10. Compassionate Love.
Being in love is all well and good, but there are actually different types of love that you can experience. Obviously, most of us want to have a healthy relationship with a partner who is empathetic to or needs. For that, you need a type of love that is known as “Compassionate Love.” it’s a huge sign of a healthy relationship, and it means that your partner has a vested interest in making you happy. How can you tell if your partner has a compassionate love for you? See if they go out of their way to make you happy, even if it isn’t the best option for them. This can even be little things, like giving a blast bite of ice cream so that you can enjoy it. Or maybe they offer you their coat when you’re cold, even if that means they freeze. When a man is experiencing this type of love, this sacrifice doesn’t seem like much of one to him, because he takes joy in pleasing his partner. Romantic love gets a lot of airtime, but compassionate love is really the hallmark of successful couples and happy, long-term relationships.
Most guys find out that even when they’re pretty good at talking to girls, There’s a whole lot more to it than that. And most of the time a major part of what’s missing… Is a fundamental lack of body language awareness. But it’s not just that some guys don’t have the kind of body language that appeals to women, It’s that the body language they do have… makes girls bored, uninterested, or nervous. But don’t worry! Because today we’re gonna tell you that how you too, can have the charismatic, confident, unignorable body language that girls are naturally attracted to.
10. Fluid Eye Contact.
Even when it seems like you’ve got everything going for you, poor or overly-managed eye contact can sabotage your efforts and ruin your chance at talking to a girl. In other words, if you want your eye contact to tell a girl that you’re cool and she can talk to you, You’ve got to be fluid AKA, your eye contact can’t look rehearsed. And luckily, we’ve got trick for that: If your goal is to put a girl at ease and get her to talk to you, look her dead in the pupils, smile, and look away. You may be thinking, Mantelligence, in the pupils? That’s a little strong. C’mon. But really, it achieves the perfect balance by doing 2 things: First, by targeting the pupil and smiling, as opposed to just the “eyes” guarantees you make deliberate and friendly eye contact. And second, because you look away, you don’t seem too intense. Give it a shot.
Do you work at a desk? Sit a lot? Look at your phone often? Then listen up. Because of your shoulders… …Are telling girls loud and clear that you not only have poor posture but that you might even be a little intimidated by people around you. The worst part is that most guys are not that closed off, they just don’t know what their day to day life is literally making them look like they’re hiding in a shell and that it’s turning off women. So here’s the 1 step process to coming out of your shell and getting women to come after you… If you’re going to be using body language to attract women you better start paying attention to them. Just pull your shoulders back and keep them there. That’s it! It’ll be uncomfortable at first, But simply holding this posture will strengthen the muscles of your back and permanently create that cornerstone confidence girl look for.
8. Stand Bold.
A lot can be deduced from simply observing the way someone stands. To attract women, you’ve got to have a stance that signals confidence and strength. So here’s how you should stand: Stand with your feet shoulder-width apart. This will help you to make yourself seem “big”. Lock your shoulders back like we just mentioned. Pretend almost like your shirt is still on its hanger in the closet. Keep your chin up and as much as possible, Leave your arms at your side. Put it all together and you’ve got a killer stance that’ll not only make you stand out But’ll get girls coming your way without you doing anything else.
7. Play Your Hand.
No matter what you’re doing, always seek to be viewed as open or approachable. And one easy way to do that: Is to have your palms exposed, even just a little bit. Just like some of the other body language tricks we’re sharing with you today, Showing a girl your palms are perfect for putting her at ease and getting her attention without saying anything. Now, that doesn’t mean you have to just stand with your palms out, cause…that would be a little weird, but if you can work in some open, palms-up hand gestures as you’re talking or interacting, You’ll have girls heading naturally gravitating towards you.
6. Show Your Bias.
Not only do ladies know that guys check them out But at the right time and the right place, they are looking for it and hoping guys do. If this sounds like a nice guy problem, It is. Nice guys will go places where girls expect guys to be a little more open, a little more forward, And instead of showing their intentions, they end up looking out of place by not making a move. But here’s what to do instead: First of all, remember that in certain social situations, girls want a guy to be flirtatious. After that, tet the girl you’re interested in seeing you checking her out, and smile when she does.
5. Fight the Fidget.
A guy that is constantly moving about and fidgeting will be seen as nervous and out of control. This isn’t the vibe you want to give off as a first impression. Because it’s so widespread, A guy who makes controlled, collected movements will automatically lure women his way. Here’s how you can start practicing: Think about James Bond. Seriously. Do you think you see that guy fidget? Slowing down your movements convey directness because they are more calculated and have a purpose. You’ll appear more certain and it’ll show everyone around that you are more comfortable in your environment and it helps to create a bit of intrigue and mystery. However, just remember not to slow down too much. You don’t want to be seen as the weird guy that moves in slow motion.
4. Fix Yourself.
Here’s another across-the-room trick you can do to get girls coming your way. Ladies notice everything you do no matter how small or insignificant you might think it is. She will notice if you’re fixing your clothes when you’re around her and doing this will easily signify that you are interested in her Simply because you are grooming yourself to ensure you stand out and appear attractive. Not only does it show her that you care about your appearance, but it also keeps her from guessing if you’re interested or not. And that’s the whole point! So don’t be afraid to let her see you fixing your hair or straightening your shirt for her if it comes across naturally, She can only be flattered that you’re trying to look your best for her.
3. Space Out.
Even though we’ve evolved, we’ve still guided by some pretty primitive social dynamics. And one of the most ancestral behaviors, Is taking up space. All we’re talking about is taking up a little slice, the small bit of territory, that you need to be comfortable. There are two halves to this that women notice. First, they’ll notice that you did not try to dominate and take more than you need. As fun as that might be, 9/10 women are not gonna like it. The flipside, though, is that they also want to see that you kept enough space to be comfortable. And that part of it is extremely important. So put your keys and phone on the table, lean back in your seat, and don’t shrink into a space that’s too small for you. It’s not rude and as simple as it seems, this sends a clear signal of cooperation and confidence that women can’t look away from.
2. The Welcome Walk.
So it’s a wonderful day, and you’re taking a cool stroll through the park. You notice a guy walking But.. his head is down and hands are in his pocket. What would be your initial impression of this guy? Of course! He’s stressed or overwhelmed and more importantly… he’s unapproachable. If you want to seem approachable, stick your chest out and bring your shoulders back. This posture shows a woman what they’re most attracted to- confidence! It’s that easy. If you observe just about any celebrity, rock-star or champion you’ll notice that they always walk this way, And there’s no reason why it won’t work for you too.
1. Mirror Her Moves.
Let’s say a woman makes her move towards you. You either hold your ground and make her nervous, or you can seize the moment and use the opportunity to send some non-verbal flirtation her way. Sound like something you’d want to do? Mirroring is a completely silent, body language-based method of getting a girl to keep looking at you. It works like this: Say you catch a girl from across the room and she fixes her hair, the chances are… That you’ll automatically, without thinking about it, fix something on yourself. Now, while most of mirroring will actually happen on its own You can use it to build a sense of familiarity with a girl, that will get her to come to talk to you.
If you want to be able to get girls to come up to you, without even talking to them, there’s one body language no-no that needs to be avoided: Crossing your arms. You already knew not to do this, but if you’re like most guys, You still end up doing it anyway. Crossed arms are such a problem because more than anything else, they send a clear signal of do not approach. When girls see them, it’s almost like they have no choice, but to just give up talking to you, even if they’re interested.
Hey If you are single and trying to finding a girlfriend so you are at the right place where i’m gonna tell you that 10 psychological ways to get a girl to like you first off I want to say that these are ethical and aren’t manipulative but will in the end make a girl subconsciously be attracted to and want to be around you.
#1. Have Your Own life.
This is like literally the foundation of starting a great relationship and will give you the starting base to make her like you. Think of it like this if someone tries to sell you amazing new book with all kinds of secret life formulas that will make you rich happy get a six pack in 3 days and become a new world leader in the marketing and packaging of the book looks great but then you open it and read it and all it says is life is short you don’t need these things to buy more books for better advice when you’re trying to get a relationship or make a girl like you and you have a boring life this is literally what you’re doing. Imagine having an amazing life and doing awesome things that you say hey girl I really like having you around you want to stick around and that’s all it takes to make your own personal life interesting and girls will flock.
#2. Have An Interesting Hobby Or Passion.
Here’s another super interesting tip that is hard to find elsewhere on the internet literally having just one passion will make you see more interesting plus it adds respect to tip number one. you’re starting your own life your hobby can be anything that you’re passionate about just make sure it’s true passion and not faked. if I said I love chainsaws and carving chainsaw art in my free time but I actually didn’t the sparkle wouldn’t be there in the girl won’t see it. when you are actually passionate about something your girl will notice there’s something infinitely sexy about a guy with an intense passion towards something it could be programming, motorcycling, cooking, drawing, reading, playing an instrument and anything else that suits your fancy just put in the time bonus point to be creating something in the process.
#3. Have Great Hygiene.
Number one tip to instantly make a girl attracted smell good I don’t even mean smell amazing you just have to smell decent go take a shower or a body soap all over you twice shampoo your hair dry yourself off apply good deodorant put clean clothes on in your set. No need to douse yourself with half a gallon of Axe body spray. You just have to smell presentable you can tho by some cologne and spray one squirt two squirts max. I recommend one on the wrist and one near your neckline this is all it takes the smell great and girls fall for great swelling guys all the time.
#4. Ask Her To Do Things For You.
So, This is definitely a secret tip and maybe even a bit manipulative but definitely not anything evil or negative. Just ask her to do something for you there’s a psychological effect called the Benjamin Franklin effect that goes like this. You ask a girl to do something for you she does it and in the end, she subconsciously likes you just a bit more. You might be asking why though well when we do stuff for people our brain thinks since we’re doing something for them we must like them. Now Benjamin Franklin uses techniques on his rivals and political opponents to get them to like more also there’s something called the consistency bias. After someone has done something for you a couple of times they’re more likely to do more just because they don’t want to look inconsistent tip ask for things like picking up a pencil for notes in class giving someone a paper or even small errands but don’t overdo it though where she’ll feel like you’re using her.
#5. Make Her Laugh.
This is a great tip and you may not think you’re funny but the truth is everyone can be funny if they try. You have to put yourself in enough situations to get used to the opportunist of telling an unfunny joke enough that you have the confidence to tell more jokes around people the more you tell the better you will get girls to love laughing and the more that you can make them laugh the higher up in their social change you will seem it proves that you’re intellectually strong and humerus which is a desirable trait and future mate. Also, this will give you the chance to see where her eyes are going whatever she laughs to see if she’s interested in you at all.
#6. Be Her Friend.
There’s a big difference between being her friend and being a friend zone. Also, I want to note it’s been proven and totally acceptable to be in the friend zone for months at a time and then move in and start dating. So go the extra mile and do stuff that makes her smile do things that other guys wouldn’t do. Stuff like leaving little notes in her car send her good morning text talking through problems and sympathize with her. In fact, in doing these you’re practically halfway already dating her you just have to tell her that you wanted for the rest of your life in your basically set.
#7. Break The Touch Barrier.
Here’s a good subconscious psychological hit that works amazingly well in many situations. Touch your shoulder ask her for something and grab it out of her hand or make up some game that requires the touch and plays with her like rock-paper-scissors come up with a cool handshake if you have to. The idea is to make her know that you’re willing to touch her in a non-sexual way because you feel comfortable around her and to get a reaction. If she seems disgusted or scared don’t touch her anymore.
#8. Tell Her Secrets.
Tell her secret about you something personal that not very many people know this will open the door for trust and as you tell her more things about you she will notice that you trust her and in turn, she will trust you more. Psychologically we like and trust people who trust us first because we have a natural instinct to be wary of new people and not to trust them so when you prove that you trust her she will start to reciprocate in the same fashion and I recommend telling her secrets that you’d be okay with other people knew just in case she tell someone but make sure their personal and make sure they would be considered a secret.
#9. Give Her All Of Your Attention.
In a world where your attention can go anywhere, it is one of the most valuable things you can give a girl. if you want her to pay attention to her and not just for a couple of minutes look her in the eyes when she’s talking to you and make mental note of all this up she’s talking about if you can mention it in later conversations so feel special and start to enjoy your presence this works with anyone.
#10. Beef Up Your Confidence Game.
This is a lot to do with being self-aware and knowing what makes you awkward and insecure and working on yourself and improving this to become more secure and confident. who you are as a person the best general advice I can give you to become more confident and make a girl like you is to work out regularly if you’re in middle school or high school I suggest three days a week arms legs and core / cardio now near the end of high school and during college you can get into more advanced schedule and supplements.
Just think if you go before a girl and start saying o…um..hellooo… then literally this makes her think that you are such a loser or maybe something worse than this. You go before a girl gets nervous, starts shivering and didn’t say anything you feel real shame. After that, you start finding that how to become more confident around the girls then you suddenly find this site where I’m gonna tell you 6 effective ways to be more confident around girls so, be ready to kick out that nervousness off.
#1. Every morning when you wake up, do 10 Pushups.
Doing exercises in the morning as soon as you wake up is PROVEN to energize and wake your body up for the day. Don’t believe me? Just ask a millionaire entrepreneur. Besides, it’s only 10 reps, you mean to tell me you can’t do 10 pushups in the morning? Exactly.
#2. Wear a bomb ass outfit.
I’ve talked about how important it is to dress well in our other articles when trying to get girls, but it’s equally important for your confidence. It’s hard to feel bad about yourself when you know you’re dressed like a badass, so always make sure you look your best. Also when you dress well, people and girls specifically are more likely to talk to you since it makes you seem like you’re more social and approachable. Hell, I was at a party just this past weekend and I was wearing a brand new shirt that I had just bought a few days before that I knew made me look good and as soon as I made eye contact with a girl, the first thing she said was “I like your shirt.” Boom, the conversation started right there, and from that point, I went into talking with her about other shit and all I had to do was put on a nice shirt.
#3. Talk to somebody new every day.
This one isn’t even that hard, especially if you’re younger and still in school or college. Just start up a conversation with the person next to you about what’s going on in class, homework, or how hot the professor is. You can talk to someone new at work or even just say hi to a random person walking down the street, you don’t have to have a big conversation or anything, just say a few things back and forth, no big deal. Talking to new people makes you feel more confident because you’re constantly forcing yourself to overcome the initial fear of talking to a stranger and proving to yourself that you’re not a pussy. Doing this also makes you a lot more social and experienced when meeting new people, thus making you more confident.
#4. Talk to girls you don’t like or care about.
Now you may be thinking, “Huh? What the fuck are you talking about?” But hear me out, if you’re talking to a girl you don’t care about and she rejects you, stops replying, or just straight up tells you she doesn’t like you, are you gonna care? Noo! But the reason behind talking to girls you don’t care about is to gain experience talking to girls and seeing what works and what doesn’t. This way your practice runs don’t mean anything in the case that you mess up and you still get all the same experience of talking to a girl, so when it does come time to talk to girls you care about, that experience will make you WAY more confident that if you never talked to girls beforehand.
#5 Write down a list of all the things you’re good at.
This one seems a little basic, but it’s sure to make you feel confident as soon as you do it. because you’ll have a bunch of reasons right in front of you as to why you should be confident. Maybe you’re attractive, or athletic, or you have a cool eye color, or a badass hairstyle, or you’re wearing a nice outfit, you’re good at a sport, or a game, you’re really smart, you have a couple of close friends who care about you, you’re really close with your family, you have a lot of money, you’re mature, you’re a nice guy and you’ve helped out a lot of people Whatever it is! Knowing you’re good at a bunch of things makes you feel positive, and people can sense it, and you come off as more confident.
#6. Have something you’re really passionate about and do it every day.
For example, if you play the guitar and you love it, move your practice session to after you get home from talking to girls (or, whatever activity you want to be confident doing). That way when you’re out, you’ll always have something to look forward to. This way you know you have something really positive waiting for you regardless of the outcome of what happens with girls or whatever that day. Also, having something that you care about more than girls also makes you more attractive to them since it shows them that you have other positive shit going on in your life and that you can be successful in the things you do, you’re not needy or dependent, which are 2 of the most unattractive qualities in a person. And that’s it.
A LOT of guys really have no idea what the hell they’re doing when it comes to taking care of themselves, talking to girls, or just in general, so in the spirit of making sure you guys aren’t totally ruining up your chances with the female population, we decided to put together a list of things you guys are doing that makes you unattractive.
#1. Dressing like you’re 12 years old.
Now I’ve said this before unless you’re actually 12 years old, don’t dress like you’re 12 years old. I thought I made it clear but since I see SO many guys still doing it, I thought I’d get really specific. NEVER wear the following out: Basketball shorts – unless you’re working out or playing basketball Those stupid Nike t-shirts with the cheesy sayings on them “BLOOD, SWEAT, TEARS. NO PAIN NO GAIN. 90% BADASS, 10% ALPHA MALE. TOO MUCH SWAG IN THIS GUN SHOW BABY. Please don’t wear a shirt that says that Big ass baggy cargo pants or shorts with huge pockets and loops and straps and things hanging off. Pajama pants – holy f*** I can’t believe I even need to say this one out loud, never wear this unless you’re gonna bring your bed with you too. If you wanna change your style up for cheap, the brands I recommend are ASOS, H&M, Zara, and J. Crew Factory. These places have a ton of dope options for cheap prices, so be sure to check them out.
nullNow obviously if you have a beard you’re gonna have a mustache with it as well, but I’m talking about having a creep-stache which is just a mustache with no other facial hair. There are VERY few people who can actually pull it off, so just assume you’re not one of those people. Besides, if you’re younger you won’t be able to grow thick enough facial hair in that area anyway and you’ll just end up looking creepy. You wanna make sure that if you do have facial hair, that it’s well-kept and clean looking, not scruffy and scary looking. At the same time, if you’re going for a clean-shaven look, you want it to be nice and clean, not having stubble of varying lengths all over your face and neck like you’re 11 years old and just got your first razor for Christmas.
I’ve mentioned this before but NOTHING will turn a girl off faster than you being needy and constantly seeking her approval and attention. Constantly hitting her up via snap, text message, and Instagram is the easiest way to ensure she WON’T like you. Instead, play it cooler, let her text you after you establish a connection, and don’t be afraid to leave the convo first to leave her wanting more.
#4. Flip Flops.
Again, this is something I should NOT have to tell you but I still see so many young guys going out and about their business wearing flip flops and showing off their disgusting feet. And TRUST ME, nothing is more unattractive than being able to see into someone’s soul through their disgusting toenails or foot hair, you’re better off just not wearing flip flops at all, and saving them for the beach. If you just have to wear slip one, there are tons of better options, like Toms, espadrilles, driving shoes, and slip-on canvas sneakers.
#5. Sweater Vests.
Again, I absolutely cannot believe I still see people wearing these sometimes. Wearing a sweater vest is the EASIEST way to make yourself look like you’re coming out of a Children’s Place catalog, and unless you’re 7 years old OR 70 years old, then you wanna avoid sweater vests at all costs.
#6. Getting attached way too easily.
This is even worse than wearing 3 sweater vests and a pair of flip flops at the same time. You know those guys who talk to a girl like ONE TIME and now they’re so into her that they’re checking all her social media, texting her all the time, and not even trying to talk to any other girls because they think they’ve already found “the one”? For Zeus’s sake, bro, STOP IT! Yeah, if you have a girlfriend, don’t cheat on her. But if you haven’t hung out with that one girl multiple times already or if you aren’t even sure she’s into you too, you absolutely should keep your options open.
Gentlemen, today we’re showing you the 10 ways to get ANY girl to fall in love with you FAST. If you really like a girl and want to make her yours then follow these simple steps which today we are gonna tell you. Hey, guys, this is Jessie and you are on mensecretbooks.com. We reveal every secret that men need. so, let’s get started.
10. Get Busy.
Look, Guys, Before you even think of getting girls to fall in love with you. You have to love yourself first And one of the most effective ways of doing that. Is by becoming the man you’ve always wanted to be. And how do you do that? By keeping busy! Knock things off your list. Get in shape. Run errands. Get fat stacks. Pick up a couple of skills and always be getting better. In other words, if you want a girl to look at you like a guy with long-term potential It’s got to be clear to her that you know how to get stuff done and have your priorities straight.
9. Know Thyself.
While there are plenty of aimless, surface-level guys out there that get girls to like them, Most girls aren’t going to fall in love with a guy who has no direction and doesn’t know who he is. You know why? Because that’s not a man… That there is a child. Girls want a man who’s confident, sure of himself, and won’t overwhelm her with his insecurities. And to really be that man, you’ve got to go deep, venture where other guys won’t, and do what most are afraid to do. Constantly question your own thoughts and actions. Seek to understand why you are the way you are. It can be a hard path sometimes, it might even get a little dark But by taking the time to learn who you really are, you’ll become more confident… And slowly become the real dude girls want to end up with.
8. Be Gentleman.
There’s a long-standing myth that girls only date jerks. But it’s simply not true. Women may flirt with jerks, they may laugh at their jokes, but in general, they don’t plan on being attracted to jerks. As time goes on, most women in the jerk phase of their dating life eventually realize the obvious, jerks are actually jerks. They think to themselves, why was I with that guy for so long? Was I really into that? Then they realize part of them does actually have a thing for jerks, but not the mean kind of a jerk, no… They now see that the guy they want is… “the gentle jerk.” The gentle jerk is the kind of guy most women can love. Sweet, caring, helpful, but unapologetic and bold. He’s like an easy going teammate… Who will also stand by his girl’s side but also help her stiff-arm life? Because life is like playing football. You dodge a bunch of hazards while trying to reach your goal And sometimes you get knocked down. So it’s nice to have a teammate to pick you back up. And being that helpful, reliable advocate.
7. Speak Your Mind.
How many times has this happened to you: You and a girl are discussing which land mammal is the coolest when she has the audacity to say, “African Elephants.” You know for a fact that Capuchin Monkeys are cooler, but do you tell her that? NO! For some reason, you go entirely against your beliefs and agree with her even though you CLEARLY prefer Capuchin Monkeys to Elephants. Look, guys… confrontation is hard, but it’s a part of life. If you find yourself avoiding it, That’s something you need to work on. Because not only are you probably missing out on some fun discussion and debate, You’re also signaling to a girl that you may be insecure and a pushover. Two things… That girls do not want out of a guy who’s captured their heart.
6. Get Invited To Parties.
If there’s one thing every girl wants to have when she’s with a guy, especially from a guy she’s going to love… it’s a good time. So what’s the number one thing you can do to make sure a girl is having fun when you’re together? Be fun to be around. Girls love a guy who makes them laugh. And it’s not just because every moment she spends with him is a surprise… Laughter releases the feel-good chemical, dopamine into our brains, so you’re literally brain-hacking her love code when you make a girl laugh. So tell jokes, good or bad, hone your comedic timing, and go from being a fun-gi at parties to being a fung-us.
5. Take a Break.
Results may vary, but in 9/10 successful long-term relationships, It’s important to back off from time to time. We’ve all been there… It’s impossible not to be excited about someone new you’re talking to. And what can end up happening, Is that you text too much or rush things… And you fail to nurture the relationship in the right ways during the early stages. Rookie move. Make her fall in love with you. Be unavailable and stay busy. Find time for her, but don’t always make time for her. By keeping a reasonable distance, you’ll be able to keep your emotions in check… and ride the slow, cool wave to long-term love.
4. Don’t Be a Suck.
Have you ever been around someone who is constantly a Debbie Downer? Someone who always has something negative to say, no matter the situation? People like that suck the fun out of everything. They’re fun sponges, and girls freakin’ HATE fun sponges. Remember: Girls like fun. By being a Negative Nancy all the time, you’re only making everyone else more miserable. So look on the bright side of life and try to find the good in every situation, especially when things don’t work out. Because there are absolutely zero girls who want a guy who’s constantly bringing down the vibe. And speaking of bringing down the vibe, be sure to avoid doing these other things that girls absolutely HATE.
3. Get In Good.
It’s no secret: Girls are love talking to friends and family about, well… Everything. And that includes everything about you. So you end up in a situation like this: You’ve been seeing a girl for a while and she definitely, definitely likes you… But she’s not sure if she loves you. And one of the things that are hinging on is how you do with her friends and family. And while getting to know her family can be intimidating, It’s also a great opportunity to get in good with those closest to your girl and seal the deal on love.
2. Resist the Urge.
We live in an age where everyone is constantly bombarded with distractions. Buy this! Eat here! Look at this funny cat picture! Because of these incessant distractions, it can be hard to stay focused when you’re talking with a girl. But that’s no excuse. Even though it’s no fault of your own, a girl can’t fall in love with a guy who’s just not really there. So if you’re not listening to her. She’s going to notice… So if you want a girl to fall in love with you have to be attentive and actually acknowledge and hear what she’s saying.
1. Prepare For Takeoff.
It doesn’t matter which phase of a relationship you’re in… Physical contact is THE #1 way to get any girl to fall in love with you fast. So when you’re on a date, initiate a light touch at first. If she’s into you, it’ll give her butterflies. (It’s a great way to flirt) Because on top of an emotional connection, girls NEED a physical connection with their partner. So start slow and escalate things gradually until she gives you the all-clear. And by the time the countdown starts… She’ll be ready to blast off just as much as you.
Imagine you’re just hanging out with your friends and you see a drop-dead gorgeous woman that makes your heart skip a beat and your stomach flip. You start to imagine when suddenly everything that you wanted to say to her seems to suddenly get sucked out of your brain and you’re left completely blank. Before you even have a chance to make your move, she disappears. Never to be seen again. If you’re nodding your head in agreement and reliving the frustration, don’t worry, you’re not alone. After all most of us are just not taught how to talk to women when we’re growing up. The good news is it doesn’t have to be this way. Learning how to talk to beautiful women and sparking attraction is a learning skill just like any other and this is four tips to talk to girls to spark attraction.
#1. Opposites Attract.
Would you like to know the key to making her sexually attracted to you? Show her your masculine side. For there to be sexual attraction you need to have polarity between masculine and feminine energy. You see the women that you probably find most appealing are deeply attracted to masculine men. Just like how you’re probably attracted to very feminine women. Just like magnets, when you put the same charged sides together they repel. But when you bring two opposite sides together, they attract. So make sure to show her a lot of your strong masculine side because she won’t want to sleep with you if you show too much of your soft feminine side. Unless she’s a very masculine woman of course.
That means to speak loudly with a powerful low voice stand up tall and be proud. No slouching or closed body language, speak your mind and don’t be afraid to say no to her. This basically means don’t be a pleaser or supplicate and always make sure to lead the interaction and bring her into your world. And of course, have strong eye contact is absolutely crucial. These means don’t blink too much or shift from eye to eye as you’re looking at her. Now I’m not saying that you should be aggressive to her, don’t do that. But if you act like a wimp you’re not gonna get the girl, period.
#2. Emotion Vs Logic.
One common mistake that a lot of guys make when learning how to talk to beautiful women is they communicate logically when they should be communicating emotionally. While logic certainly has its time in place, it’s certainly not the language of seduction. Women respond to emotions. For example, when you’re teasing them, or breaking rapport, you’re spiking emotions of fun and excitement, and when you’re building a connection, you’re spiking emotions of safety, security, and intimacy. On the contrary, speaking logically pretty much has no benefit when it comes to turning on women or making them want to be with you. So instead you need to speak through feeling and connect with her emotion, spark her emotions. It doesn’t mean you need to always be talking about feelings, it should almost be like an emotional roller coaster where the emotions go all over the place. If it’s just flat-lined, and then you’re gonna end up in the friend zone.
Self-amusement is exactly what it sounds like. It’s using the interaction as an opportunity to amuse yourself. This is where guys really screwed up because they do the opposite, they’re always trying to amuse her but that just comes off as needy, supplicating, and reaction seeking, and doesn’t work. Once you get the hang of it, you’ll never run out of things to say, you’ll feel good talking about things that actually matter to you, instead of doing what most guys do and try to amuse her, try to entertain her, but when you’re interested in or amused by what you’re saying you’ll be speaking with enthusiasm and passion and the girl will naturally be interested as well.
Here are a few ways to self amuse: Talk about things that you’re passionate about. When you’re talking about your interest or your hobbies speak with passion in your voice. Remember enthusiasm is contagious. Also debating topics that you find interesting. However, stay away from politics or religion, unless however her political view or religious view could be a deal-breaker, in that case, figure that out as soon as possible. You can also make jokes that you think are funny regardless of whether she thinks it’s funny or not. Now try not to offend her. You can also just tell her to do something that amuses you, for example, I like to have girls draw me pictures, and a lot of them actually do it.
Qualifying a girl is basically just testing to see if she fits certain criteria that are important to you and this demonstrates that you’re a man with standards and it puts her in the position of trying to prove herself to you. Perhaps most importantly it ensures that the women that you’re allowing into your life are the exact types of people you want to surround yourself with. Now before you qualify a woman, you need to take the time to actually figure out what’s important to you in a woman. For example: What personality traits do you value? How do you want her to treat herself and those around her? How do you want her to be sexual? The more specific you are with your qualifications, the clearer the image of your ideal girl will be in your head, which will make it easier for you to spot her when you see her. Once you know what you want you can simply ask the girl questions to see if she matches the qualities that you’re looking for.
Alright, a lot of you guys in high school and college are always thinking how to approach that cute girl at school so today I’m gonna break it down for you real quick because this shit is REALLY simple. But before we get into that, I want you to imagine the girl in your class that you want to approach Ready? Ok, here we go.
#1 Try to sit next to her in class
This one is simple but it’s also the EASIEST way to strike up a conversation with her. Once you position yourself next to her, it increases the chances that she’ll notice you and you’ll be on her radar. And if you’re well dressed and stylish like you should be, sitting next to her will easily grab her attention and separate you from everyone else. You don’t even need to say anything the first time you sit next to her or even the first few times you sit next to her. Just sitting next to her enough times will make her notice you AND it’ll make her subconsciously more comfortable with you since you’ll become familiar to her.
Now don’t use this as a way to procrastinate talking to her for the whole year and then once school is over you’re going on youtube and complaining that it’s impossible to get girls. You can and should talk to her literally the first time you sit next to her by using this next tip.
#2 Make a comment about what’s going on in class.
If the teacher says something weird or anything even remotely interesting happens, just turn to her and make a comment about it. She won’t see it as weird or unnatural since you’re sitting next to her and it makes sense that you’d make a comment to her because you guys are right next to each other. This is why I recommend sitting next to her because it makes this step WAY easier. If you’re sitting next to someone or standing next to someone and something happens, it’s natural to turn and say something about it, but if you’re on the other side of the room, you can’t just yell across the room and be like “HEY JULIE DID YOU SEE WHAT JUST HAPPENED? THAT WAS SO WEIRD RIGHT?” NO, of course, you can’t do that. So do your best to sit next to her. The benefit of sitting next to her is also that you don’t have to rush into getting her number. You can build up the interactions and make her comfortable with you by talking to her a few times in class before getting her number. Knowing that you’ll see her again in the future is an easy way to take the initial pressure off of trying to get the number and can allow you to focus on just talking to her normally and building the interaction.
This way you can calm your nerves and just focus on doing one thing at a time. It’s easier to get the courage to just make a comment in class one day, then to go up to her, start a conversation, talk a little, get her interested, and get her number. I know just thinking about that makes your palm sweat and gets you all nervous and anxious. And if you’re gonna be sweating when you approach her you wanna make sure you cut that out before you talk to her, otherwise, you’re gonna smell like shit and there’s no way she’d like you.
#3 Just ask for her number.
If you’re in the same class and you’ve talked to her a few times, just mention an assignment and ask her for her number so you guys can help each other out with it. This is probably the easiest and most organic way to ask for it because if you guys are gonna be helping each other out with notes and studying, then she has an incentive to give you her number so don’t be afraid to just ask for it. It’s really not that weird to get a girl’s number to discuss shit going on in class and she won’t think it’s a big deal either.
#4 If you can’t sit next to her for whatever reason OR she’s not in your class.
If you can’t sit next to her for whatever reason OR she’s not in your class then you’re gonna have to man up and cold approach. If she’s in your class but you can’t sit next to her then just follow step 3 and mention an assignment to her, then go for the number. Otherwise, you just gotta man up and do it. When I was in school I used to be hesitant about cold approaching but an easy way to approach her is to literally just go up to her and introduce yourself. I actually found a lot of success in doing this because although it’s not common for guys to do this, it actually helps separate you from all the other guys who are too scared to do it. Cold approaches also help make your intentions clear from the start and will avoid you getting friend-zoned because if you just randomly approach a girl at school and start talking to her and eventually get her number at the end of the convo then, of course, she’s gonna know you’re doing it because you’re interested in her romantically. An easy thing you can do to start the conversation just makes a comment about your surroundings as I said before.
BUT if you can’t think of anything or there’s nothing to make a comment about, just go up to her and say “Excuse me, what’s your name?” and then the conversation will flow naturally from there. You can ask her about her classes, what hobbies she has, or just straight up say “I honestly just thought you were cute and wanted to get your number.” This method is straight up and will either give you a yes or a no so you won’t have to waste any time. This is also good if you have a really popping Instagram because if you exchange Instagrams and she sees you’re a really interesting guy then that’ll do a lot of the work for you. As long as you’re confident, approaching it in a cool way, and smiling then she’ll either be down and continue the conversation or she’ll make it clear that she’s not interested and boom you got your answer without needing to waste brain space daydreaming about having s** with a girl you never talked to.
#5 Get a mutual friend to introduce you guys.
This is a really easy way to organically meet a girl, but it requires you to be friends with guys who are good at getting girls and meeting a lot of them. So you basically have two options, either be really good friends with that guy or become that guy. It’s up to you to decide. If you’re Based as fuck like me, then you can be that guy AND make friends with other guys like that so that way you’ll always have a good pool of girls to talk to. And that’s it.
In summary: Sit next to her in class Make a comment about something in class Just ask for her number Man up and cold approach Get a mutual friend to introduce you.