Most guys find out that even when they’re pretty good at talking to girls, There’s a whole lot more to it than that. And most of the time a major part of what’s missing… Is a fundamental lack of body language awareness. But it’s not just that some guys don’t have the kind of body language that appeals to women, It’s that the body language they do have… makes girls bored, uninterested, or nervous. But don’t worry! Because today we’re gonna tell you that how you too, can have the charismatic, confident, unignorable body language that girls are naturally attracted to.
10. Fluid Eye Contact.
Even when it seems like you’ve got everything going for you, poor or overly-managed eye contact can sabotage your efforts and ruin your chance at talking to a girl. In other words, if you want your eye contact to tell a girl that you’re cool and she can talk to you, You’ve got to be fluid AKA, your eye contact can’t look rehearsed. And luckily, we’ve got trick for that: If your goal is to put a girl at ease and get her to talk to you, look her dead in the pupils, smile, and look away. You may be thinking,
Do you work at a desk? Sit a lot? Look at your phone often? Then listen up. Because of your shoulders… …Are telling girls loud and clear that you not only have poor posture but that you might even be a little intimidated by people around you. The worst part is that most guys are not that closed off, They just don’t know that their day to day life is literally making them look like they’re hiding in a shell and that it’s turning off women. So here’s the 1 step process to coming out of your shell and getting women to come after you… If you’re going to be using body language to attract women you better start paying attention to them. Just pull your shoulders back and keep them there. That’s it! It’ll be uncomfortable at first, But simply holding this posture will strengthen the muscles of your back and permanently create that cornerstone confidence girl look for.
8. Stand Bold.
A lot can be deduced from simply observing the way someone stands. To attract women, you’ve got to have a stance that signals confidence and strength. So here’s how you should stand: Stand with your feet shoulder width apart. This will help you to make yourself seem “big”. Lock your shoulders back like we just mentioned. Pretend almost like your shirt is still on its hanger in the closet. Keep your chin up and as much as possible, Leave your arms at your side. Put it all together and you’ve got a killer stance that’ll not only make you stand out But’ll get girls coming your way without you doing anything else.
7. Play Your Hand.
No matter what you’re doing, always seek to be viewed as open or approachable. And one easy way to do that: Is to have your palms exposed, even just a little bit. Just like some of the other body language tricks we’re sharing with you today, Showing a girl your palms are perfect for putting her at ease and getting her attention without saying anything. Now, that doesn’t mean you have to just stand with your palms out, cause…that would be a little weird, But if you can work in some open, palms-up hand gestures as you’re talking or interacting, You’ll have girls heading naturally gravitating towards you.
6. Show Your Bias.
Not only do ladies know that guys check them out But in the right time and the right place, they are looking for it and hoping guys do. If this sounds like a nice guy problem, It is. Nice guys will go places where girls expect guys to be a little more open, a little more forward, And instead of showing their intentions, they end up looking out of place by not making a move. But here’s what to do instead: First of all, remember that in certain social situations, girls want a guy to be flirtatious. After that, Let the girl you’re interested in see you checking her out, and smile when she does.
5. Fight the Fidget.
A guy that is constantly moving about and fidgeting will be seen as nervous and out of control. This isn’t the vibe you want to give off as a first impression. Because it’s so widespread, A guy who makes controlled, collected movements will automatically lure women his way. Here’s how you can start practicing: Think about James Bond. Seriously. Do you think you see that guy fidget? Slowing down your movements convey directness because they are more calculated and have a purpose. You’ll appear more certain and it’ll show everyone around that you are more comfortable in your environment And it helps to create a bit of intrigue and mystery. However, just remember not to slow down too much. You don’t want to be seen as the weird guy that moves in slow motion.
4. Fix Yourself.
Here’s another across-the-room trick you can do to get girls coming your way. Ladies notice everything you do no matter how small or insignificant you might think it is. She will notice if you’re fixing your clothes when you’re around her and doing this will easily signify that you are interested in her Simply because you are grooming yourself to ensure you stand out and appear attractive. Not only does it show her that you care about your appearance, But it also keeps her from guessing if you’re interested or not. And that’s the whole point! So don’t be afraid to let her see you fixing your hair or straightening your shirt for her if it comes across naturally, She can only be flattered that you’re trying to look your best for her.
3. Space Out.
Even though we’ve evolved, we’ve still guided by some pretty primitive social dynamics. And one of the most ancestral behaviors, Is taking up space. All we’re talking about is taking up a little slice, the small bit of territory, that you need to be comfortable. There are two halves to this that women notice. First, they’ll notice that you did not try to dominate and take more than you need. As fun as that might be, 9/10 women are not gonna like it. The flipside, though, is that they also want to see that you kept enough space to be comfortable. And that part of it is extremely important. So put your keys and phone on the table, lean back in your seat, and don’t shrink into a space that’s too small for you. It’s not rude and as simple as it seems, this sends a clear signal of cooperation and confidence that women can’t look away from.
2. The Welcome Walk.
So it’s a wonderful day, and you’re taking a cool stroll through the park. You notice a guy walking But.. his head is down and hands are in his pocket. What would be your initial impression of this guy? Of course! He’s stressed or overwhelmed and more importantly… he’s unapproachable. If you want to seem approachable, stick your chest out and bring your shoulders back. This posture shows a woman what they’re most attracted to- confidence! It’s that easy. If you observe just about any celebrity, rock-star or champion you’ll notice that they always walk this way, And there’s no reason why it won’t work for you too.
1. Mirror Her Moves.
Let’s say a woman makes her move towards you. You either hold your ground and make her nervous, or you can seize the moment and use the opportunity to send some non-verbal flirtation her way. Sound like something you’d want to do? Mirroring is a completely silent, body language-based method of getting a girl to keep looking at you. It works like this: Say you catch a girl from across the room and she fixes her hair, the chances are… That you’ll automatically, without thinking about it, fix something on yourself. Now, while most of mirroring will actually happen on its own You can use it to build a sense of familiarity with a girl, that will get her to come to talk to you.
If you want to be able to get girls to come up to you, without even talking to them, there’s one body language no-no that needs to be avoided: Crossing your arms. You already knew not to do this, but if you’re like most guys, You still end up doing it anyway. Crossed arms are such a problem because more than anything else, They send a clear signal of do not approach. When girls see them, it’s almost like they have no choice, But to just give up talking to you, even if they’re interested.